Why do girls crush on their teachers?

[hedwidandtheangryowl]

okay, so I've crushed on a teacher before, sure. and I've seen guys who were into their teachers. but I always see girls who think their way deep in love with their male teachers, even if the guy is married with kids and give the girl no special attention!

on top of this, these girls always seem to think they are the only ones who have ever felt this way, and think it makes them mature and sophisticated.

why does this happen?!

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it's serious, but usually not. I think young girls are often deluded. and I truly think it's not sexual attraction. I definately think it's admiration, but society places such an emphasis on sex, etc. that these girls think they "want" their teacher, when all they really want is the image they have of them -- they see their characteristics & positive traits and look up to that. This is confused with sexual attraction. but if you've heard of transference phenomenon (Freud has an incredible essay titled "Observations on Transference Love"), it's not the teacher they want. They don't KNOW the teacher as a person, it's the projection.

If it's purely lust, which it often is in high school, then it's just girls being females; they see their male teachers as the strong, dominant, smart figures (which are more desirable to women, and these older men stand out among their peers). At the same time, they could be wanting male attention & testing out their powers of sexuality. This passes quickly with time, as these girls move on.

I don't claim to be mature or sophisticated, because maturity seems like something that is gained and lost throughout life. When I first liked my teacher, it was admiration. But it's neither that or lust anymore. because I was thankfully able to see him for who he was. I'm an exception though. When I graduate in a year we're going to get serious. It's nothing sleazy (like the lust-love) and nothing childish (like the admiration love). I don't know how seriously you'll take me but. well, I'm living proof these things CAN be healthy! (I just have to be responsible). It does happen -- actual relationships -- but it's rare. Often in the news you hear the worst-of-the-pile, the grimy/slimy stories where the kids were taken advantage of, or they couldn't wait until after graduation.

The young girls who obsess over the married ones. Electra complex! Nah, I think it goes back to saying that they assume admiration is sexual. Even "crush" isn't a platonic word.

[six-to-twelve]

So you're actually going to get involved with your teacher? :| How the heck did that even come about?

[Opinion Owner]

It's a long story but... he came when I was in 9th grade and we were obviously just friends then, but the more I grew the relationship changed and we're similar in so many specific ways... specific interests, similar lives, etc. In our case it was VERY RARE though, I understand that. Thankfully the situation is handled so well, he genuinely cares a lot about me and is sensitive :) sweet guy

[melle]

Well, girls seem to go for someone with that little bit more maturity, that bit more responsibilty and who everyone looks up to. It happens. There was this teacher in my school, no names mentioned obviously and every girl in school fancied him, yet he was married.

it may just be sexual attraction, it could just be they spend hours of their day with that one person, getting to know them and think in their heads that the teacher likes them too, trust me it happens, plenty of my friends misread the signs this teacher was giving out, like extra help, smiling. yeah it sounds far fetched but the teacher was being nice and every girl in the school mis read it for special attention.

one day they will realise it wasnt love, and that there's boys their own ages out there which are so much better suited for them :)

[winter3]

its never sexual attraction to a teacher.and its never love.

its just the fact that the teacher is older.more mature and sophisticated.

no matter how cute you want your guy to be.brains can always beat looks.

hahaha

im crushing on a teacher actually.

[Anonymous]

i have actually never crushed on a teacher. But I think the answer to this is girls think they seem more "sophisticated" and "mature" if they like older men.