Why do girls flirt so heavily but don't actually like you?

[Anonymous]

I always assumed women wouldn't want to signal to unwanted men any hints of interest by accident lest they trigger him to pursue her and annoy her.

But I swear to God I am getting so much interest from women or so I thought but they always turn me down.

[Zenpanda]

Women shouldn't have to walk on eggshells just because they're cheery, nice and bubbly.
Men just shouldn't assume that every nice comment, compliment or smile is flirting.

[Asker]

What if they touch you and you catch them looking at you all the time? I guess that's all normal. I never knew normal people just did these things casually. I have always been excluded from social things my entire life so I don't know wtf is going on.

[Zenpanda]

Physical contact is normal and the only way you catch them looking is by looking yourself. Are you flirting with every one of those women?

[Asker]

I guess I should be glad that they consider me normal enough to include me at all. I can't figure out the rest of it.

[Zenpanda]

Experience is the best teacher, don't assume and you'll get far enough

[Asker]

I'm thinking I have to just go out and chase a ton of women. I fear to because I'll probably only get rejected and just be depressed lol. I wish I knew wtf was wrong with me but I have zero way to find out.

[Billlewis]

Because they enjoy teasing guys, especially when the guy they're teasing knows he has no chance whatsoever of ever being intimate with her.

[teamvic]

They like the attention

[Fanfare690]

What are you considering flirting by these women?

[Asker]

Touching me. Getting too close, leaning against me. Staring at me up close and I catch them looking from a distance. Making eye contact constantly. Every time we pass they look at me and smile. Always saying hi and bye to me.

I'm just not used to any of this happening to me.

[Fanfare690]

Either they arnt flirting or you're making moves way too fast

[Asker]

I don't really make moves unless you're saying I ask them out too early?

[Fanfare690]

Yes o think you may be asking too early. Let the girl really want you... these girls may be flirting for attention

[OddBeMe]

To get shit for free.

[Asker]

I never give a woman anything ever since girls tried to bully me in like 3rd grade I never trusted a woman since then lmao.

[OddBeMe]

I feel like you could bury the hatchet with the 3rd graders. Just for your sanity. Lol

[Asker]

I just make sure to never give them anything, buy them anything, or otherwise. It's not because of 3rd grade. But it made me distrust them for long enough to grow up and see that women like to use men. And then I decided to keep my adopted position because it was good to not let them have their way. They don't deserve anything from me unless she's my wife.

[OddBeMe]

We all use each other. I use my wife for sex. She makes me do the dishes first. Time is a flat circle that uses us all…(takes a huge toke)

[Asker]

Lol I know you're right but I never have problems with sex. I am very romantic and good in bed and whoever I do end up dating when it comes up they wanna fuck me even if we are fighting and things are going bad.

[Asker]

I honestly think if your woman don't fuck you it's the man's fault every time. Women love sex if you're not doing it right she's gonna make you pay for it.

[jahaims]

For validation to cope with insecurities