Independent Women, if you spell it out loud and clear you want to kiss a guy. It means something right?

[Anton35]

There’s this scenario where someone I’ve liked for a long time who I had been flirting with over two years.

And at the end of this wine tour where she had been giving me “fuck me eyes” the whole day and making sure I ate

She took me by the hand as I was walking inside after saying by to friends (I don’t get this as a signal, as I’m kinda damaged)

And then I go to walk inside and as I take a step inside she says behind me “ you know you just missed an opportunity right?”

So I immediately turn around and close the door as I finally had a green light and ask “so what are we doing out here then?”

And as she’s leant in towards me eyes big she says to my face “I really want to kiss you right now.”


Which followed with what I can only describe as chemistry and a spark as it just felt right and natural and wanted on both sides whole heartedly. She even started feeling me up which I then also started to feel her up but respectfully and then she took my hands and traced it up the side of her body to put on her boobs.

It meant she thought about it long and hard right? We have the same social circle aswell

P. S an ex and unresolved feelings popped up at the same time so she went back to him

But he broke up with her again and she’s hurting but I said no to being friends as I know what I want now.

And I want to also know I’ve been amazing to her besides one argument, would she still think of the night we kissed and would she have felt it too if I also felt it and given her actions

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay dude, based on what you described, it does seem pretty clear that she was really into you in that moment. A few things stand out:

- Taking you by the hand, telling you you missed an opportunity - obvious signs she wanted to make a move.

- Then outright saying "I want to kiss you right now" leaves very little room for ambiguity. She knew what she wanted.

- The making out and things escalating physically further shows it wasn't just a casual kiss - there was definite spark and chemistry happening.

- For a woman to be that forward and assertive, it's a good sign she had genuine feelings/attraction for you in that moment.

All that said, people can have unexpected exes pop back up that confuse feelings too. And being newly single again, she may still be processing her breakup.

I'd say give her some space now like you said, but don't rule out the possibility of things progressing between you down the line either. Clearly there's something there worth exploring once the dust has settled.

You've been good to her - she likely remembers that positive connection you have. Only time will tell if/when she's ready to revisit things further. But I wouldn't discount that she felt it just as strongly that night too man!

[DishLady]

First of all... she sounds nuts. Next... she's cheating on and off with some other guy but you just give in because of "fuck me eyes"? SMH. Sometimes I swear guys are just as nuts as the girls they chase.

[Anton35]

May I ask where did you get cheating from?

[Nikki1989]

I can't talk for others, but when I want something, it is more than obvious.

[Anton35]

I can be dense do you mind relating it to my example so I can better understand?