I think something is off with me?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been really dealing with self esteem issues, my social skills are bad. I tend to be quiet, and reserved but recently I’ve been trying to be more outgoing. I’ve isolated from my friends and family members. My brothers and sisters are distant, they have their own lives and moved away. My oldest sister is very mentally off so I don’t talk to her, she talked shit about every one of us spreading lies so I don’t associate myself with her. Anyways, I have a teenage nephew who lives at home here and I used to be close to him but now it’s hard to even talk to him. I worked in the hospital around nurses my age I’m not a nurse I’m a patient care tech. And I kept myself busy, and I rarely ever said no. And I think I burned myself out. I was ‘agreeable’ from what one said lol. I didn’t care tbh, I just wanted to stay busy. But I felt like I was treated like a kid, maybe it’s my own demons thinking that. But I felt like they thought they could get me to do things other techs wouldn’t do. That’s what I want to change, they all hung outside of work so they would get sassy with one another. I never said no, and sometimes they got bossy. And I said “I’d tell them” when they got bossy or whatever. One said “just say no, you are too nice”.
I am not nice, I just avoid confrontation. I am now at a new job, and I’m quiet again because I’m new. But I don’t want this to happen again, I’m 27 and I feel so lost. I don’t want people thinking I’m like “slow” or what not. Now I’m giving medications, if I was slow or impaired would I be able to do this? I’m so worried everyone thinks I’m “off”. I’ve been to a few therapy sessions and they say it’s anxiety but I’m just confused. Am I digging deep into this? What are some ways to be confident? In the workplace and out of the workplace.

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1 y

I think I’m slow, I can’t stick up for myself. I’m 27, I should know who I am right now!

How do I change this? Like this morning at work I know I’m new and everything but I feel like everyone treats me like I’m dumb. Maybe I’m taking it too personally?

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1 y

What you’re not gonna do is call me a dumbass, rude comments will be removed.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're facing a mix of personal and professional challenges, and it's amazing that you're recognizing these patterns and seeking change!

Firstly, acknowledge that your self-awareness and willingness to grow are significant steps towards confidence and improvement.

To build confidence in the workplace and personally:

1. Set boundaries: Learn to say "no" without explanation or justification. Practice assertive communication.

2. Prioritize self-care: Take time for yourself, engage in activities that bring joy, and focus on mental well-being.

3. Reframe negative thoughts: Challenge negative self-talk by replacing it with positive affirmations.

4. Develop a growth mindset: Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and learning.

5. Surround yourself with positivity: Seek supportive people who encourage and uplift you.

6. Focus on strengths: Rather than dwelling on weaknesses, emphasize your skills and accomplishments.

7. Practice mindfulness: Stay present and focused, reducing worries about others' perceptions.

8. Celebrate small wins: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem.

9. Embrace your uniqueness: Don't compare yourself to others; instead, focus on your individual strengths and talents.

10. Keep seeking therapy: Continue exploring your thoughts and feelings with a professional to gain deeper insights and support.

Remember, confidence is a journey, not a destination. You got this!

[Emanon25]

Make a new start and move forward, forget about the past

[DarkLegacy]

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