Am I fat to you?

[lover01__]

Okay, so I just had a huge argument with my mother. She is a personal trainer and built her business from the ground up. She has many clients and has helped a lot of people lose weight. She today went on a rampage about me not eating the best that I’ve gained a lot of weight and that I am big. For reference I’m 5’7 my weight is 140 I wear a size small to medium. I have been skinny for the longest time and have always struggled with my weight. I was already secure about it. Up until recently, I wore an extra small for the majority of my life. I have finally reached the weight I like. My thighs and butt are bigger but I still look decently small. I enjoy being a little curvier and I finally look like I have a woman’s shape and a not like a kid. I feel horrible how she bashed me today stating that I’m big and people have said that gained weight. Is 140 pounds big to you guys. I don’t want to start starving myself again but also don’t want to work with my mother either because her words are harsh and she doesn’t speak to her clients that way which is why its so hurt full that she feels comfortable bashing me. Also she is nowhere near 140 pounds. I’m sure she would love to be size which is crazy how she is calling me fat.

[Summerlazing]

I’m sorry to hear that, it’s horrible. In my experience Mum’s can be hardest on their kids, but don’t let her get in your head.

If YOU are comfortable with how you look, and you sound healthy to me, then ignore her.
It’s important to draw boundaries though, so I would politely tell her you’re happy with how you are and you’re sorry she doesn’t feel the same, but you’re not going to discuss this with her anymore. Just don’t engage in these conversations with her. Parent/child relationships can get messy, but you’re a grown ass woman, she needs to respect that.

[Nikki1989]

No, not even close.

[Anonymous]

You're mom sounds pretty horrible and fitness obsessed. 140lbs. sounds pretty NORMAL to me. I think the problem is with your mom, not you.

[In_Trance]

The numbers don't really mean much.
It's a rhetorical question: are you in shape or not?

[lover01__]

I would say I am. I’m not chubby in the slightest

[Kingofkings1992]

Don’t see a picture of you?

[lover01__]

I have a pfp can’t really post a full body here

[Luckycharms12]

Sound good tbh pay no attention

[war_daddy]

I think your weight is about average