Why would someone defend cheating on a working husband “what’s in it for me” when he works 70 hours?

[Anonymous]

What’s in it for him? Especially women who refuse to do any work around the house. The least they can do is stay loyal and enjoy the limited time they have.

what’s in it for you? A roof over your head. Children you love. A nice house. A pool. Money to go shopping with.

All the women who get angry and start yelling at me are probably exactly these type of women. I have news for y’all. Not all women are like you, and if they were I would much rather be alone then be miserable like a lot of these men are who marry these women.

It’s funny when I call men on shitty behavior I’m all the sudden a SIMP and white knight for women. But I’m sexist against all women for calling sone women out. You’re making women look bad. It’s been women who told me about a lot of things I know and things I’ve seen happen to other people

[NotSlowestSloth]

If he's working for 70s then who is he giving time to?

You have to be there for your kids and most importantly, your wife.

[Asker]

You do have to be there. But some of these men are so miserable at home that they will work for free just to avoid their wives.

[Asker]

I don’t see a lot of “traditional” marriages work anymore. Because it isn’t what it used to be. A lot of these women have a fantasy of having a free ride in life; and being expected to do anything then getting their hair and nails done while her husband works his ass off is just too much.

They refuse to do anything other then the bare minimum. Some of them are good mothers I’ll give them that but not good wives. Some aren’t even good mothers.

Yeah. A real relationship takes both people working equally hard in whatever roles they decide on. So if that’s how the marriage is. Then the woman takes care of everything inside the house and even outside. She keeps the checkbook. She raises the kids. She cooks. She cleans. She mows the lawn.

[Asker]

In the 1800s and 1900s traditional women worked hard. A lot of times the women complaining about not having traditional marriages. Are rich women with podcasts. As well as deadbeat women who many times aren’t even political.

[Asker]

And I’ve seen great stay at home mothers. Some of my great grandparents were moms. Guess what? Great people. My great grandma who unfortunately passed was a amazing woman. She genuinely loved her husband and her kids. When he died she went down hill fast unfortunately.

So I’m not bashing all of them. But in 2024 everyone needs to find a way to become a victim and get attention. So they go on tik tok and complain about how hard their life is. When their life really isn’t that hard.

There are single moms running the household all by herself on top of working 3 jobs.

[JonCobretti]

How is that an excuse to cheat? Jeez

[Asker]

@JonCobretti it’s definitely not. But people defend cheating on girls ask guys all the time. I think it helps them feel better about the things they did. Instead of facing how fucked up it is

[NotSlowestSloth]

@JonCobretti There are no excuses, only consequences.

Excuses are there to avoid personal responsibility. But what matters here is that a man cannot make excuses or run away from consequences.

Who take responsibility when others aren't? Because at the end of day, you'll be the one who'd get screwed and nobody is going to save you.

Plus the OP made the man sound like a victim when he's clearly not. Things can be done in a better way.

Things don't magically go bad. Fault lies in with both party.

[JonCobretti]

@NotSlowestSloth
I agree that it's wrong to not be there for your family , but it's terrible to cheat using that as an excuse too
If she think it's not working, she needs to ask for a divorce like an adult
Also here we are talking about the case of a man working his ass of to provide for the family, so it's not like he is "Not there" for the family right?

[JonCobretti]

Women who cheat on men who are working till their bones ache deserve to burn in hell

[Asker]

I agree. Nobody is perfect. If someone does something bad but faces it and accepts the consequences. It’s BAD….. but that’s one thing.

A lot of these women just double down though. They just make any excuse to whore around in their husbands

[Asker]

I seen a video of a man who married a stay at home mom. None of his kids was his with the exception of one (who maybe isn’t his either we don’t know)

She just made excuses over it until she finally came to terms with it I guess and hung herself

[Asker]

I don’t get why these men choose these women. It makes zero sense. There are women who could genuinely love them.

But I guess some of them sleep around and marry a whore. Thinking they can turn her into a houswife

[DishLady]

Why would anyone defend cheating PERIOD? 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Asker]

To make themselves feel better really. Even if someone’s in a bad relationship. Being a bad degenerate person yourself doesn’t make you the bigger person

[Asker]

Then again some people are past knowing right from wrong

[DishLady]

Ugh…

[Asker]

Yeah ugh is right. Honestly cheaters are never to be trusted. If they will deeply betray someone they claim to love. Imagine what they would do to you…

[Asker]

Especially when many times all they’re getting is sexual gratification. Only imagine what else they would do to gain

[RedInnocent69]

Depends on what he makes. I guess, quite a bit. But spending time with your partner is important, no matter how well off you are. Maybe the most important.