Girls, would you prefer an admirer of yours to take care of your issues or your feelings?

[scooogy]

They could rather focus on helping you deal with your problems in life or rather distract you and try to make you happy anyway.

[provokeesmokee]

Listen to my problems, but do not assume you can fix them or that I want your help.

My partners know to ask (and I know to ask them) if they need:

• Active listening and support
• Validation (maybe ranting alongside)
• Solutions

Ultimately my partners know that my problems and issues are mine. That my life is mine.


I have had partners offer to pay for things that I can afford and I will refuse. Because I don't want them to solve my problem. I want to solve it on my own.

[DishLady]

"An admirer"? No. I'm a big girl. I can take care of my own s**t. If I have a good man in my life who I can lean on and ask for advice, that's different because he has my confidence, which is a rare thing.

[Fatoumamoud]

If they took care of my issues then they are making me happy 👌 but I rather they kiss me a lot & give back hugs that's will help me more.

[scooogy]

I think about helping her with finding a job since she's new with that and barely lives here for a year. But then again I tell myself that this would make her dependent on me.

[Fatoumamoud]

Yeah. Let her figure out. She will get a job if she looks for it.