Do girls go back to their crushes? I’m not sure what happened here?

[Anonymous]

Met a girl at work and only briefly got to know her. She asked for my name and only really interacted with me as far as I know in her 2 months since she started. We exchanged glances here and there and crossed paths smiling with one another but the work climate made it a challenge for me to make a move because she had just started working there and I didn’t want her thinking all the guys just want advances on her.

However in my time seeing her I got better at reading nonverbals and always kept an open and confident body language. In one of our interactions by a water cooler she initiated conversation and was showing clear interest and kept in front of me, had 2 chances to pull away but I was lost for words and let it get a bit awkward. Looking back I really had the intention of flirting with her but we were by some of the cubicles by her work area

Anyways.. it was the last day of our week during 4th of July weekend and come next week I find she is no longer working at the company. And reached out to her on social media as her name was on an email and no response… maybe something happened :/

-Would she have felt humiliated if she had a crush on me?

-Would she have felt embarrassed since our last interaction was by her cubicle where her peers could not see but hear her? (All men over 40+)

-Would I still remain her crush?

-Was she possibly on internship?

-Is she taking a hiatus?

[Alli112]

Tbh your interactions still fall under the category of "she's just being friendly" from my perspective (unless she was like, explicitly asking you on a date in that last interaction), so if she didn't respond when you reached out then please leave her alone. If she were interested, she'd have responded, simple as that. Even if she were to have be interested previously, if she's not responding now, she's not interested now.

[Asker]

hey Alli as much as it hurt to read the ither day I value your insight. Thanks for taking the time to explain. I am actually still curious about other perspective and would like to hear more if there was more you could elaborate on and had more to share. There are more details as I reflect back- I found her as someone bold and mature for her age. She was in leadership with other social people and I was in a more technical role.

When she and I talked, clearly we were both nervous. There was an interaction where she enthusiastically waved hey and then ghosted me for about 3 weeks and then crossed paths for another interaction like nothing happened.. which had always left me wondering if maybe she felt she overexpressed herself

I appreciate different viewpoints and an open mind. It has been helping with some closure here.

Im just really hoping girls can extend enough grace in moments of falling in love and as much as girls may behave or act in a similar way, every girl is unique and may do different when not under social influence from culture or her peers

[Alli112]

Just "showing interest in a person" or "engaging enthusiastically" doesn't objectively mean romantic or sexual interest. She might just be a super friendly person, or she might have wanted to be friends and not pursued it further if she realized you were mistaking her politeness for romantic interest.

Kind of confused as to how this is such a big deal for you to the extent that you need closure tbh. Like I'm under the impression that you never went out or explicitly expressed interest in one another? I think your biggest problem is not that she might not be into you, but that you've elevated your interactions with her to such an extent that you feel hurt by her not turning out to be the way you imagined.

[Asker]

gotcha… that actually makes more sense. I appreciate the input

[Alli112]

Np, definitely not trying to be mean or hurtful, but I hate seeing people do this to themselves because if always feels to avoidable (then again, I'm not always the most romantic person so I definitely don't have much tendency to over romanticize things on my end)

[Nikki1989]

Hopefully anyone over the age of 18 is not so immature to think of anyone as "crushes."

[Avicenna]

Usually crushes are transitory, and if you don't act on it, she'll move on

[Anonymous]

Get her back

[Asker]

thank you for writing that🫡 I need any small push I could get. My job just feels empty now. I was doing good before she worked there and she just comes and takes a chunk of my heart - now I can't stop thinking about her. She has about 40+/59 of kingdom partner traits I have been looking for. She’s straight off my vision board pictures man.. (they’re black sillhoutess but her traits, her style, her demeanor)
.. she has to respond back

I just created my GAG account here yesterday and noticed it could be a place she might come if her irl friends aren’t speaking into her as she would like.. staying hopeful but stay tuned

[In_Trance]

She's not interested