How to move on from humiliation?

[Anonymous]

When I was in 8th grade I was friends with this 10th grade girl we both like this guy and his brother. I didn’t had a phone so I used her phone to check my Facebook and I didn’t log out then I remembered that I had messaged one of the guy and was talking bad things about her saying she’s flat and I was getting the guy mad talking bad about him then he called me a square goat which is bad of me I don’t remember the reason I was saying those stuff maybe cause she wasn’t as a good friend to me like have me like a dog and act like she’s a queen. Then when school over she came to me with one of her friend and told me off that she read the message and how she don’t want to be my friend anymore and that sameday I gave her a gift for her birthday and she said you can have your gift back I don’t want it then she said she’s going to visit my parents. She came the same afternoon and was reading all the message and she was trying not to laugh when she read the square goat one, then my mother was coming for me and then my dad called my grandmother and it was a whole mess. I felt so humiliated and disgraced. I know I deserved it. What she did there will stay with me forever.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang sis, that sounds super embarrassing. Middle school drama can be so brutal. Don't be too hard on yourself though - we've all done dumb stuff when we were younger without really thinking it through. It sucks she basically publicly shamed you like that in front of your parents too. That was definitely taking it too far.

The best thing now is to just try and let it go. I know it's probably still stuck in your head sometimes, but don't dwell on it ya know? You can't change what happened. Own that you messed up, but also cut yourself some slack since you were so young. Moving on is the healthiest thing. Focus on your friends who support you now and don't listen to gossip. Prove to yourself over time that you grew from the experience.

And who knows, maybe reach out to that girl someday if you're both older and apologizing could bring closure. But no pressure - you looking out for number one is what really matters. Keep your head up sis! Middle school ain't the real world. Brush it off and keep doing you.

[Asker]

I also felt like she took it too far, hope she’s happy

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah, going to your house and involving your family was definitely an overreaction on her part. That was super humiliating and unnecessary.

It's normal to feel angry about it and want revenge in the moment. But the best thing is to rise above that kind of petty drama. Hopefully with time and distance, you'll care less and less what she thinks.

Chances are one day she'll look back and realize how mean she was being. But that's her problem - you just focus on you. Surround yourself with true friends who love you for who you are.

One day this will all be a distant memory. Keep your head high and know that you didn't deserve such public humiliation. You've learned from it, and now get to move on to better things while she's still stuck holding onto high school grudges. Her loss!

[Staximus]

A square goat? Hahaha what the hell is that?

[Staximus]

All that is no big deal, why are even worried about it still?

[Asker]

A square goat - the guy is calling me a square as in I have no shape example like a box, refrigerator and a goat

[Staximus]

I've never heard such a thing being said as an insult. Where are you from?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Just accept it was a natural punishment to your actions and move on