Partners female friend acted different when I met her, but he says everything is platonic?

[Anonymous]

Please help me to understand this. I met my partners female friend at a works event. When I was there, she was right next to him however she barely chatted to him for the entire time.

Since then, I’ve overheard them on the phone when they are discussing work topics. They chat for a few minutes after talking about the serious stuff related to work. Tonight they were discussing a woman at work they both dislike.

I just want to know why, if everything is platonic, she acted different when I was present? Maybe she was shy or uncomfortable? Because I’ve met my partners other female friends from work and they acted as they would usually with him

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that does seem kinda weird how she acted different around you. A couple possible reasons I can think of:

- Maybe she did used to have feelings for your boyfriend at some point but knows he's taken now so she's shy around you out of awkwardness. Even if nothing ever happened she might secretly still like him a little.

- Could also be she's jealous of your relationship and doesn't wanna see him all lovey dovey with someone else. So she acts distant as a weird power move.

- Or she might be worried you'll get the wrong idea so she's overcompensating by not interacting normally so you don't think anything suspicious is up.

Tbh it's a red flag she acts one way around you and another other times. I'd bring it up to your boyfriend and tell him how it made you feel uneasy. Ask him what her deal is. As long as he reassures you nothing romantic has ever happened and he's got your back, I wouldn't stress too much. But def keep an eye out in case she tries anything sneaky! Trust your gut on this one.

[smurfwrangler]

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