How do I be in a relationship with someone who has a platonic relationship with a female?

[bbhhgirl]

I have been in a relationship with a man for a year. It was a girl he spent 4 weeks and it almost was a relationship but he turned it down and they kept it at a platonic relationship and when I met him I wanted it to end because I thought it was more and they way they complimented each other and talked to each other made me jealous. He stopped talked to her but I felt like it put a hole in our relationship which it did.

[mobiusforniner]

Im going to diverge from the other commenters here and say that such a friendship is unhealthy for your relationship. I also had a female friend, whom I admittedly was interested in years before, become a major wedge into my relationship. Sure, it was "platonic" in the sense we didn't sleep together, but my friend began to fill significant emotional gaps in my relationship. I spent time with her often. I supported her emotionally. She became physically close, wanting hugs... and those hugs became holds... she became very critical and envious of my partner. Gifts were exchanged. And, however subtle, romantic emotions began forming. At that point sex was just a matter of time and my relationship was damaged.

Axe it where its at.

[Sparkie460]

There's nothing wrong with a guy or girl having a platonic relationship with someone of the opposite sex. I'm married and I have female friends who I go out with. Sometimes with other friends, sometimes just us two. Nothing sexual happens. My wife also has male friends that she has known since before we dated. You just have to learn to trust your partner.

[AydenHazor]

The is nothing wrong with a guy having a playing close friendship with a girl and vice versa. If you're not secure enough in your relationship for your partner to have a friend of the other sex, you might want to look into why you're feeling insecure, have you had past experiences that feed into it or is there another reason you don't yet trust the person you're in a relationship with.