Not interested or overthinking it?

[mikjones123]

This girl I like was telling me about a restaurant I should try out. She said a lot of the guys and girls who work there are cute. Does that mean she is probably not interested in me or am I overthinking it?

[BetaBucks]

You're probably overthinking it, because I don't even understand what issue you have here. If you're upset that she's telling you she's attracted to other people, that's probably pretty normal in an early relationship. Especially with super generic comments like that. It's not like she specified the guy she wants to blow. But if she spends a lot of time talking about how attractive other people are, she's either uncontrollably promiscuous, or intentionally trying to hurt your self esteem to manipulate you. Red flags, by themselves.

[BetaBucks]

Lol dude, I just caught on to what you meant. I can't delete my comment, so I'll just update. She def might have been suggesting you go find someone else, but she would have only mentioned girls, unless you're bi. Girls will point you towards other girls when they're not interested in you. Especially when she was suggesting you go, and not you two go together. I'd ask more questions about it if I were you. But if she's not showing clear interest, she's not interested. Girls aren't vague once they know you're interested. Or if they're genuinely down for you.

[mikjones123]

Like it could have just been small talk right she mentioned guys right?

[mikjones123]

We were just having a casual convo nothing flirty

[BetaBucks]

Yeah, 100% could have just been small talk. Odds are pretty good you're overthinking it, if there's nothing else to factor in here

[Anonymous]

On one hand I think it’s just a general comment someone would make to a single person, suggesting there’s attractive people at a place you could potentially match with. But who knows, she could also have taken notice of your crush her and trying to direct your attention elsewhere. This is the route I’ve personally taken, suggesting places to my male friends where they could possibly meet women when I myself wasn’t interested.

[mikjones123]

yeah I haven't shown any interest at all though, trust me. it was probably just a general comment. like she said boys and girls also, and it wasn't those that hang there but people that work there. I haven't shown any interest to her just been friendly thats it. im prob overthinking it.