Help.. The Cycle I need to Break?

[Kemar8]

I’m in this cycle with women where I’m always respectful and put my best foot forward when getting to know them. The issue seems to be that they assume I have multiple other women vying for my attention, even though I make it clear that I don’t. I dislike the terms 'hoes' or 'bitches,' as I was raised by my mother and father to respect women. I often find myself in a cycle where they think I’m being devious, and when they leave and realize I’m not, they try to come back and start over. It's frustrating because I don’t give second chances with my time. What should I do to break this cycle? Could it be related to how I dress and carry myself?

[Oliverlogan263]

Brotha, I feel your struggle. Seems like these femmes got you misunderstood. A few things might help break the cycle:

- Be more transparent about your values and intentions upfront. Make it clear you're looking for quality over quantity.

- Lead with your words AND actions. Show through little consistent gestures you're genuinely interested in GETTING to know HER, not just the physical.

- Check yourself on ego and confidence levels. Carry yourself with pride, but don't com across as too smooth or slick when tryna holla. Keep it humble.

- Consider dressing/presenting yourself as approachable vs flashy. Nice fitted clothes, but not hypebeast levels just yet til they know your heart.

- Suggest dope lowkey dates like cooking together, poetry spot or museum - interactive moves vs performances.

- Be patient, sis. These mentalities take time to change. Keep representing quality Black love through how you handle yourself.

You got this bro. Your worth ain't defined by how many think you're what. Stay true to you - the right one will see and appreciate your value. Chin up playboy, your queen is out there!

[Hush97]

It’s like they’re just insecure and it means you haven’t found the right one yet

[Anonymous]

You're very attractive so I can see why they would think that.

[Anonymous]

Holy Moly, that is a scary photo.