Why does this world works like this? How can I get out of this cycle?

[Azura_88]

They say that never look for happiness in people but look within YOU and you'll be still happy even if you're left alone.

Ironically, the moment you start being happy with yourself toxic people disguised as good friends start to enter your life.

Then you get used to them but after some time, they take you for granted, make you upset, you feel pathetic and leave them.

Then again you rebuild yourself, be happy and the cycle REPEATS.

[HelpingMcHelpington]

Hey, you commented on mine, so I guess I'll return the favor. Honestly, I have no idea. I've been fucked around and used a lot over the years. But this last one really hurt. I was talking to this girl for 4 years. Fell in love and was willing to do anything for her. I was there when no one else was. I never judged her or put her down. Then what happens just a couple of months ago? She gets some new friends towards the end of 2020. She falls in love with a guy she's known for a few months. Then they convince her to stop talking to me and cut me out of her life. And she ended up listening to them. I nearly came closing to ending it. I trusted her more than anyone, then she just drops me like nothing once someone new comes along. Now I just feel like I'm worthless.

[Azura_88]

Heyy that's so pathetic of her. You AREN'T worthless, you don't need fickle minded and backstabbing people like her. There are 90% chances that she trash talked about you behind your back and as a result they told her to cut you off.

[HelpingMcHelpington]

I have no idea if she did or not. It's a super long story. She wasn't the first to do this to me, but she was sure as hell the last. I just feel I can't trust anyone anymore.

[moejoeloli]

You and only you have the true power to make you happy. Never rely on anyone but you to achieve your true happiness is what I learned the hard way.


After mastering this, you’ll eventually attract positive like minded people to you and see the poisonous ones coming from afar. Just never stop believing in yourself no matter what!!

[Azura_88]

Thanks a lot buddy

[moejoeloli]

What goes around comes around! Karma ain’t always a b*tch 😉

[Azura_88]

Yeah karma isn't always a bitch... but is it guaranteed that what goes around comes around? Do the people face same consequences after some time they PLAYED OR USED their close ones?

[moejoeloli]

In due time I believe it’s true. Maybe you won’t witnesses it. Maybe they’re already paying but hiding it because self hatred makes people behave like that

[Azura_88]

Wow that's good.

[Devlaw5]

Lool yea that’s hard. But I don’t think the saying is wrong. Good friends turning out to be not so great sucks. But the saying I think speaks to sustained happiness. No one will ever be happy forever. Unless you’re not human. The point isn’t to never be sad or disappointed. Part of the human condition is sadness, and loneliness, and anger, and all the other bad feelings. The point is to be sustainable happy, or in other words, not to for us on the negative things for more than you need to. If your good friends disappoint you, feel sad, feel disappointed, feel angry if you need to, then get back to living your life for you. The point is to not let the bad stagnate.

[InventorofWarp]

Sounds like you're not really happy with yourself. If you really are there isn't a cycle. There's just being happy with you. You recognize the shadows when they come and pay no thought or attention and just move along with your life and your goals.

[lycanthrope3]

It is true, being happy is a personal choice, you find it within, not from other people, they will let you down