Why does my separated wife that still lives with me act like I am supposed to be her slave now that she has a job?

[Finchie40]

My wife and I still live together even though we aren’t together romantically anymore , now that I am out of work , she acts like i have to stop what I am doing and clean up everything in the house because she is going to work finally. Like I have to clean on her watch. Every morning I am up actively applying to jobs and trying to get a job , once I had enough , I start doing chores in the house , it’s like she tries to control what I do , I tell her I will get to it when I am ready to , she gets so pissed off about it , why does she act like she is my boss? I told her she needs to stop trying to control me or she can move the fuck out of here if she doesn’t like it. I can see if I did absolutely nothing , but I always clean , just not on her watch. Why does she act like this? When I was working full time and we were together , I never bitched at her once if something wasn’t done , so why does she feel she can bitch at me about it? The girl is a complete selfish wack job? Avoid getting married guys’ at all costs , it isn’t worth this nonsense whatsoever , our marriage fell apart because of her selfish behavior and decision, By her wanting her cake and wanting to eat it to , do not get married , I don’t care how great she is in bed , it isn’t worth your sanity when she decides she no longer wants to be committed, because no matter what you do for her , it will never be enough , Mark my words. When she hits her menopause stage , you will mean absolute shit to her. If I ever get married again , it’s going to be to a young girl , so I can be dead before she hits menopause lol

[PatKirby]

She's using you. To her you're a utility, like a toaster or a car. Once she perceives she's receiving no benefit from you (namely, your money or material things) she's already mentally seeking out another workhorse for her plantation. This is an example of Briffault's Law which basically states that a relationship takes place only if the woman benefits. Once she no longer benefits (money, material things), the relationship no longer exists.

Is the house under your name only? If it is, seek to evict her - she no longer respects you, is employing emotional abuse to get what she wants from you and will continue to do so. After which her hypergamous nature will drive her to monkey-branch to, what she considers is, a higher resource workhorse. Also, you should seek out a lawyer and divorce her. Sad as it is statistics show that the party that files first comes out ahead.

Remember, a smart man learns from his mistakes - a wise man learns from other people's mistakes. Good luck.

[Finchie40]

Yea , she knows I no longer tolerate her shit and told her to leave multiple times , she acts like I am suppose to be her slave and thinks just because I am out of work she can now give me rules. I told her to get her shit and leave if she doesn’t like how I do things , the bitch barely ever worked a job when we were together , she is a selfish user , her true colors shined the second I was laid off from my decent salary job that supported our family , the whole time we were together I told her to work and she chose not to , now that I am out of a job she decided she will go back to work and treat me like I am now nothing to her , she is a fucking user like most girls’ are these days. We are only staying together until the kids move out and then I am selling the house and going our separate ways for good

[PatKirby]

Do your level best to separate yourself from this malicious person. Go find someone who treats like you deserve to be treated. Someone who's fun to be around, you're attracted to and who you're at peace with. Good luck and thanks for the so!

[LiamJHayden]

Is the house separate property that you owned prior to marriage? If so, tell her to kick rocks. If not, yeah, you should clean at least a bit while home.

[Finchie40]

I do clean every day , just not on her watch

[LiamJHayden]

She can go kick rocks.

[Anonymous]

This is what happens when you’re dumb enough to marry someone because she’s great in bed. You made a poor choice picking her as a life partner because of stupid reasons like sex and this is the result.

To answer your question: because she has zero respect for you left. She resents you and feel you’re beneath her and a burden on her. She doesn’t see you as a man anymore. That’s why. She probably also miss not having to work outside the home.

[Gwendoline]

She's right. Clean the house, you are unemployed. It's probably going to take as little as an hour daily to clean up. This is actually adult basic stuff.
What us it Jordan Peterson tells his students? Yes clean your room.

[Finchie40]

I do clean the house everyday , just not on her watch

[Gwendoline]

Then it's dirty when she asks you to clean it. So how does that happen between the time you clean and the time she comes home?

[Finchie40]

I have it clean by the time she comes home , she just expects me to be on her watch , she is mentally psychotic

[Billlewis]

Probably because that's exactly how it should be, in my opinion, at least.

[Finchie40]

Bill you would probably be the perfect guy for her lol

[ManInChains]

Welcome to the reality of female nature. How men can accept that and still seek out relationships with women is beyond me.

[NathanDavis]

clean after yourself... that should be it

[Finchie40]

Yup all do all the time

[NathanDavis]

get your own place, and a job

[Mwolf]

Cause society has made it so one and often only one spouse is the bread winner.🍞🏆 ☹️

[Mwolf]

There was another question on GAG that said "have you talked to someone who seems like you just just opposite gender?" And I've seen and read your comments and posts and I agree 💯. Most women are all the same for some reason. Thankfully I stick out like a sore thumb 👍🏻.🤣

[Dongie]

You must let her. Perhaps becoming standoffish will help.

[Finchie40]

Yea she doesn’t like that I don’t give into her anymore and no longer tolerates her shit. I am basically giving her a taste of her own medicine

[Dongie]

Just put her out unless you have her paying rent.

[noohair]

Guys accept 80% good and deal with 20% bad. Women want perfect.

[DextroShade]

Women turn into terrible people when they are forced into the provider role.

[chrissykerdock]

because you don't it's her time

[Finchie40]

Yea she is in LA LA Land

[chrissykerdock]

does she want you to wear a dress

[Finchie40]

She probably does

[Ms_Facesitter]

Kick her out if it's your house.

[Avicenna]

Whoa….