Why would a woman leave a hard working husband & take the kids to away from him to "Find Herself"?

[Anonymous]

"Find Herself" what does that mean? Doesn't the guy do enough for her, working, & letting her live comfortably? What else could possibly want to find & why leave a working man to live on welfare as a single mom?

[BeMuse]

She sounds like a whore. She used him to survive and create a couple anchor babies. Now she can collect child support by using her kids to exploit her ex-husband and use the kids to exploit the tax payers to collect welfare... She just wants to steal money from innocent people and she doesn't care who she hurts. She's a bum, and that's her hustle. I wouldn't be surprised if she was a drug addict. Laws need to change.

[Anonymous]

Abuse, not fulfilling her sexual needs, or she may have changed as a person and decided that she’s not happy with the marriage anymore, people change all the time. Regardless, she’s doing what’s best for herself and harassing her will only make it worse.

[Asker]

I mean not saying that those things might happen, but you need have realistic expectations when getting having kids with a guy. If she’s doing is knoting her head & being a agreeable than the guy is going to assume that they’re compatible with each other. If the got along naturally and organically then her sexual needs and happiness will be maintained. Okay if he’s abusive or a drug addict then okay I understand. But to leave because of some ambiguous emotion? I don’t think that’s fair to her kids & the guy busted his ass to provide for them. I mean she needed to express who she is as person from the start. How is he supposed to love her for who she is if he doesn’t even know who she and she’s just sitting there being agreeable just because she doesn’t want to be alone and have like all her friends are doing. She’s not thinking about the people she’s selfishly dragging into this mess.