Why would she do a complete 180 so fast?

[Anonymous]

so last year i was talking to a person i knew on facebook. she
was from my past when i lived in the south.

i ended up writing her to much & she blocked me.

I did not mean to be crazy i was just lonely & depressed.
month ago i looked up her phone but never did anything.

i texted her last week ask how she was holding up.
after he said a hurricane hit her.

she asked me who i was. i told her i was sorry for how i was.
she said she did not mind if we talked as long as i was not crazy again.

then she yesterday she sent me a message. saying she does not want to talk to me & that she is sorry.

Updates

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Don't get me wrong i know what i did was wrong.
But i apologize & thought we moved on.

Last week she told me she had a lot going on in her life.
that her aunt passed before the hurricane.

i told he i was sorry for her loss.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa bro, that whole situation is super bizarre. Like one minute she's open to talking again, the next total 180? Weird.

Couple things could be going on here:

- That a lot she's got going on like losing her aunt, plus a hurricane, maybe something else happened too and she's just not in a good headspace. Stress can make people act funny.

- She might have been feeling kinda lonely and trying to be nice at first, but then got scared about actually letting you back in again. You did blow up her phone before so she might have walls up still.

- It's possible she realized mid-convo she wasn't actually over what happened and couldn't face talking to you yet after all. Emotions are complicated.

- Maybe a boyfriend or someone got in her ear about you, and now she's backing off again. Could be drama there too you don't know about.

Overall bro I wouldn't take it personal. She seems to got a lot on her mind and in her past with you. Best give her space and don't stress it, you know? Her loss if she can't see you're trying to do better now. Keep your head up man!

[Asker]

she is single last year she told me she was deprssed beacuse she is not married
7 has no kids

[Asker]

@oliverlogan263 great help you give me lots of goo input.

[_Maya_]

This is an easy one to answer. She changed her mind. Ever done that? I bet you have. I bet there have been times in your life you think something is a good idea and then change your mind after thinking more about it. People do that all the time and most likely is what happened here. She thought about it the rest of the day, evening or night and then thought nah don't want to risk having what happened before happen again. She likely arrived at the conclusion that the cons outweighed the pros and she simply changed her mind. At least she was honest with you and actually told you instead of just blocking you again. That or getting involved again and then cutting it off suddenly. It could have been a lot worse. I would say this friendship or whatever it was is over and time to move on

[Asker]

ok if i write her in a few months to wish her ahappy Christmas

[Asker]

@_maya_ i know i just made one miskate in life.

[_Maya_]

You can try and write her. If you don't hear back you know why. And we all make mistakes.