Why doesn't she text me back?

[bulleye]

We were something and I broke her really bad. She was a life loving girl I fell in love with. She rejected me for her boyfriend and I prayed everyday they would break. 4 years and her boyfriend broke up and she became a shadow. That's when she came back to apologise for her mean behaviour but soon fell in love with me. It was because, I was the only person who truly loved her ever. And we were in 2 countries.

When she moved back, I would ask her for dates, chicken out last moment. Keep conversations short, preferred new friends over her and say mean things to hurt and made her cry. I knew nobody cared as much as her but her emotions scared me. Demand nudes and when she rejects, block her. I knew I was hurting her but wanted her to leave me. I knew she was only mine and can't loose. Eventually she left.

But sall the time I do feel very possessive of her. I just want her to be mine. Any guy talking or texting her would make me uncomfortable. I could never imagine anyone holding her hand than me.

2 years later we meet everyday at work. She is beaming with happiness and joy. Everything about her is life. She has good support system, loving friends and everything. But she seems to act like I never existed.

Thus I texted her. Her response are short and even a moth later.

Can there be something done to change her?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, this whole situation sounds like a major mess. It's clear you've really put this girl through the ringer emotionally, and the way you've treated her is pretty messed up, no lie.

Demanding nudes, blocking her, saying mean things to hurt her - that's some seriously toxic and manipulative behavior, man. I get that you have these strong possessive feelings, but that doesn't excuse how you've treated her. She's not some object you can just claim and control.

And now that she's moved on and seems happy without you, you still can't let it go. Texting her constantly when she's clearly not into it anymore is just gonna make things worse. She doesn't owe you anything, especially after how you treated her.

The reality is, you probably can't "change" her at this point. The damage is done. She's moved on, and you need to respect that instead of trying to force your way back into her life. That ship has sailed, bro.

My advice would be to take a long, hard look at yourself and why you feel the need to be so possessive and controlling. That kind of mindset is super unhealthy, both for you and for anyone you try to have a relationship with. You gotta work on letting go and respecting boundaries.

If you truly care about this girl, the best thing you can do is leave her alone. Let her live her life and be happy. Focus on your own growth and healing. Maybe one day, if you can show her you've changed, she might be open to reconnecting. But for now, you gotta respect her space.

This is your mess to clean up, my dude. No one else can "change" her for you. You're the one who needs to do the work to become a better person. It won't be easy, but it's the only way you'll ever have a shot at a healthy relationship, with her or anyone else.

[Nikki1989]

Don't you have a voice?