Girl I like randomly asked me to go on a late night walk with her, now a week on wants to talk but once she "figures out what to say"?

[Anonymous]

We've been friends for some time now but there has been interest in both of us to date previously but we didn't take it further, though we've not closed that door.

For the last month we've been lose friends speaking occasionally but not often, I introduced her to my friend group as we've got all similar interests so I let her get to know them on her own really. Early last week she asks me if I wanted to go on a walk with her so I said sure, took me by surprise as we've only ever went on a walk once before. She was fun bubbly and slightly flirty, when we were going to wrap up the evening she asks if i wanted to come to hers and smoke so I said sure, we didn't end up fucking but there was a fun energy.

One thing sticks in my mind though that she mentioned randomly on the walk that lately she wasn't looking for a relationship just a bit of fun, I say pretty much the same but I'm not against anything if someone wants me in that way. We didn't really talk for a day after as I was out of town, we did briefly on the second and more on the third day when i got back into town.

When i got back she was in a friend's chat (Some of us are twitch streamers) asking for opinions on a guy as she's scared on dating. I spoke to the friend she talked to privately after and he said that it's 100% not me, but that he's a older guy and lives very local to her which I am too.

This morning i reached out to say like hey hope you're okay concerned why we've not really spoken, and she replies "Yeah, umm, we'll have a chat at some point" and that she'll "reach out when I've figured out what to say" so now I'm nervous as hell.

I won't put it past her to lie that it's not me if she is scared though, and as I introduced her to this friend group it could even be she's worried they'll tell me. Something about the timing is just.. really off. I don't know much of who she speaks to but as far as I do know she speaks to me and this friend group mainly.

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Edit: So as i forgot to add a question, do you think it's me that she's talking about or should i believe there's another guy?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a tricky situation you've got there. Sounds like there's some real mixed signals going on between you and this girl.

The fact that she randomly asked you out for that late night walk, and there was some flirty energy when you hung out, definitely seems to suggest she might be into you. But then the whole thing about her talking to your friend group about another guy she's interested in is super confusing.

I'd be a little skeptical about whether it's actually another guy she's talking about. The timing and the way she responded to you just seems off. It almost feels like she might be trying to downplay or hide her interest in you, for whatever reason.

My advice would be to try not to jump to too many conclusions just yet. When she does reach out to "figure out what to say," try to have an open and honest conversation with her. Don't accuse or make assumptions, but let her know you're sensing some mixed signals and you want to understand where her head is at.

See if you can get a clearer sense of whether her interest in this other guy is real, or if it's maybe just a cover for what she's really feeling about you. And if it does turn out to be you she's interested in, talk it through - find out what's making her hesitant and see if you two can get on the same page.

The most important thing is to communicate openly and try not to let your nerves get the better of you. I know it's easier said than done, but try to stay cool, calm and collected when you do have that conversation. That'll make it a lot easier to figure things out.

Just remember, you've got this! This whole situation is super messy and complicated, but if you two really care about each other, I'm sure you can work through it. Hang in there, bro!

[Anonymous]

That is a lot of work not to ask a question.

[Asker]

Haha, sorry forgot to add it at the end