Is it bad if a woman doesn’t give in with a kiss or sex on the first date?

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I’m curious to know if men would be annoyed or not want to go out again if they don’t get a kiss or sex the first time they hang out

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I look k at it two different ways.. usually when I'm out with a girl I already know her and we're friends.. and you can tell when a girl is really really into you and you're really into her you can just feel that energy and I mean you both just start making out and I mean I like that

And then there's has been girls that are shy and you have to respect that.

And it's okay if you do that because when you do that you're showing the guy who you are and that you are the boss of your body you are the boss of you and you're not going to just jump into anything and if he doesn't want to go out with you again for a second date that's too bad that's on him who cares that just means that you don't want to be with that guy anyway because he's selfish so don't feel guilty or anything like that whatever you do

And don't just give in to a guy either just because you think if you don't do it that he won't want to go out with you don't do it because of that do it because that's who you are and you want to be respected if a guy can't wait then like I said you don't want to be with him anyway

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Not at all... just don't expect a second date to ever happen.

Is it bad if a woman doesn’t give in with a kiss or sex on the first date?

Now you did mention hangout... which I consider different than a date. If you want to get to know me then you'd want to just hangout and skip the dates.

"Dates" are old-school trash now and belong in the garbage just like marriage. I don't want to waste my time trying to "win" or "convince" a chick to want me... fuck that shit. If she just hangs out then I'm not paying for shit, I don't expect sex or kisses because I payed or played dress up and then danced like a monkey for her entertainment...

My concept I just displayed is multiplied times 10 if she herself refuses to be a traditional woman. The only women I pay are whores and they suck my dick and give me pussy... and if they don't...

If they don't...

You think I'd ever consider that same whore for a second date? Who would pay a whore that doesn't do their whore job?

NewWaves · Accepted Answer

Ugh. Questions like this make me so uncomfortable.

1. Some women selling themselves short by giving into physical intimacy before they're even ready for it with the guy.

2. The subtle and sometimes not so subtle pressuring for that from some men.

3. Gross dating culture.

Honey, if a dude isn't happy because you might not (genereal female you) want a kiss or sex, he ain't the one. That's it. And no falling for any potential subsequent emotional manipulation that equates to "if you loved me, you would..." Big fat no.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

The fact that you call it “giving in” tells me enough to know that you feel a lot of sexual shame in general. Nothing wrong with being uncomfortable showing physical affection to a near stranger but if they make you feel bad for it, that’s not someone you want around you anyway.

slatyb · Answer

No, do what you feel. When I was dating after divorcing, I never expected any sort of intimacy after a date. I expected civil behavior, and hoped for enjoyable conversation. Nor did I ever ask for a kiss or more. I found that my dates made it clear with their body language when they wanted to be kissed. But I was older. Guys your age may not be so aware. But do not feel obligated if you are not interested, or aren't sure. If the guy feels that you owe him because he paid for the date, then drop him immediately. He views relationships transactionally, and would make a miserable partner.

itsannalee · Answer

Better don’t give any sex to first date if what you are looking for is boyfriend. But if you just look for fuck friend that’s find.

So if a guy asked your for sex in the first date, his intention to you is only sex. And don’t expect anything more…

Bricealan · Answer

I usually only enjoyed that on a first date, when I was very young (20's or 30's) but did have some occasions later on. Not bad at all if it does not happen on the first date, that would be presumptuous for a guy to feel that.

I have had sex on a first date several times, and feel no regrets or never did I have any negative feelings about the girl I was with. I have had the experience with married and single women, and as usual, I think we make too much out of sex, as long as it is mutually agreeable and conducted in a safe and sane way with both parties

ClassicDropout · Answer

I'm gonna be completely transparent and not use anonymous. It's not a bad thing at all. It's a very good thing to respect yourself and your boundaries. I myself wouldn't feel annoyed or upset, but I'd feel at least a bit disappointed because I'm always thinking it could happen. I'm probably just a piece of shit, so I can't speak for others. It wouldn't prevent me from going on a second date at all. I also wouldn't be forceful or aggressive in trying to have sex with her afterwards.

AviatorTom · Answer

A kiss or sex is not expected on a first date. If the date went well, and there is likely to be a second date, some form of intimacyst the end if the date is typical. That could be a hug, a simple touching of hands, or an awkward looking at each other.

pragmatik · Answer

Men that get annoyed if they don't get sex during the first date are guys that date just for having sex. No man that is genuinely interested in a long term relationship will be mad if the girl wants to wait for some time before sex.

This is not what I do but I have different group of friends and I can tell you this is a pretty well documented standard procedure: date multiple girls at the same time, have sex with them ASAP, once bored with them drop them and date a new one.

Some of those guys may eventually pursue a long term relationship with one of those girls. Some guys will never do it (because of how they see those girls). And a lot of women do the same. This is not male exclusive behavior.

GoodEnoughThen · Answer

Sex on the first date ss sn expectation? That's totally unreasonable. people that expect that may be using the first-date sex to confirm that you are attracted to them, which is not the healthiest reason to have sex on the first date or really any date

WhitneySnow · Answer

Most will not be offended, nor should they be. It’s your right to wait. Most women who want a real relationship don’t put out on the first date, and some don’t even kiss unless they really like the person (and a few still wait even if they do really like them).

CuriousMoonFox · Answer

Only if he is used to sex on the first date or if you communicated interest in sex in some way or another but declined in the last minute. The more common reaction would probably be disappointment. Whether he'd be willing to go out on a second date with you would probably depend on the quality of the first date and the perceived chance of having sex on subsequent dates.

Benjiman19 · Answer

It's completely okay if they don't strip down naked for sex on the first date. But I would suggest giving at the very least, a kiss if she enjoyed the date and the guy she was with. It lets him know that she enjoyed his company. Just don't lead him to think he's about to get more than that right off the bat.

Ladies are allowed to be reserved and not have to put their bodies up for consideration of the guy coming back again.

Anonymous · Answer

That could go either way. I’ve known of couples who ended up together, still together till this day after having sex the first date. But I also know a lot of men who would not want a second date w a girl like that. Well let me rephrase that, they’d want a second date because they know she’d give it up easy but they’re not interested in a real relationship ship w her cause she gave it up that quick. It just depends on the man.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Tbh if I went on a first date and felt like we had a good vibe going, that she was having fun and felt safe and secure that there could be a spark of romance. So if I took the risk at the end of the date and leaned in for a kiss and she full on rejects me , yes I wouldn’t feel positive.

Unless she had a rule about no kissing on the first date why would she push me away in the scenario?

michalpl00 · Answer

I guess yes I would be kind of annoyed, but I would probably go on to a café and after an hour suggest that we should go somewhere else if she is interested, she will go and then I expect something to happen. If she doesn’t go I know she’s not interested, but if she goes, then I get nothing in return that I will just be annoyed

TrustOfWorthington · Answer

to me its important to set ground rules before we meet and find out the basics about what we like. If it's possible that we might do something, mainly oral, it wpuld be a bummer yes..

But no need be as long as we communicate what we want and feel about esch other

Garud · Answer

That's fine. If she's happy with a walk in the park and some street snacks and doesn't demand too much.
Because a guy who spends so much money on a first date must have some other intentions. There are exceptions anyway

Anonymous · Answer

It's not a bad thing at all if you're the kind of girl that never did that, but if you're holding out on a boyfriend type guy after being a 5lut with other guys in your past, then of course the guy should walk away. It's insulting and demeaning to the relationship guy that has to wait for something you gave to another guy after knowing him all of 20 minutes.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You do that when it feels right. It could be one date or 10. It is totally your call.

luvstoned4him · Answer

If I felt a good connection and had a great date I might give a hug Had a date with a guy which was terrible and he expected a hug/kiss at the end. #Delusional

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I don't think it's bad. Your date just can't expect you to be comfortable with doing that stuff right away. I don't think anyone would want advances that they didn't consent to giving.

Sl8bslurp · Answer

It's not necessarily  bad  but it's going to determine how he looks at you going forward. He's probably not going to take you out again unless it's in his agenda to talk you out of your pants. Most men just move on to the next bitch that's willing to drop her panties for little to nothing.. in my opinion men like that are pussies and don't even deserve a woman with walls. Buuut that's just me.

LeatherDame · Answer

If he acts entitled to either he will not be getting a second date. A boy is very lucky if I kiss him on a first date unless the plan was a hookup from the get go.

ManOnFire · Answer

Gotta say I have  never  expected a kiss on a first date. I actually find it kind of weird if a woman wants to do that right away.

paledreams · Answer

Hmmm 🤔 depends on the vibes or the actual upfront disclosures "I'm just not feeling it" or "I think it's just a friendship" or even "I think it's not a match" or "let's not go on a second date, politely" ♀️🙃♂️🤗😄

Mac-One · Answer

Only got a kiss once on a first date and it was just a quick peck. Only sex with one girl that I dated and it was after we had a mutually committed relationship and later married.

glennos89 · Answer

No she actually shouldn't do those things on the first date! Because then you are to easy to get from a man's perspective. Be hard to get that makes you a lot more valuable to most men

tzdc21 · Answer

More than likely no. But if somehow hypothetically you were willing to do it with other guys, and not with him and he knows about it... that's another story. That was just a hypothetical

ProbablyClueless · Answer

No, that's not necessarily a bad thing at all. Stuff like that doesn't have a timeline. Do what you're comfortable with.

9in_Serpent · Answer

I would assume she wasn't interested or the date went badly so i guess in that way i would be annoyed or disappointed. But i am not gonna force her lol not all dates are good dates

art84 · Answer

I wouldn't expect a kiss on the first date or sex as well from a women. Just sends the wrong impression with sex being the only thing the women wants in the relationship.

jazzy34 · Answer

If a man gets annoyed with you because you said no to sex, that’s your first red flag about him.

HighValue · Answer

Girls that have casual sex are low quality and should be avoided for a serious relationship.

Unit1 · Answer

What? No

dudeinohio · Answer

I'd probably consider no. kiss after the first date to be a red flag. I don't expect or pursue sex on the first date.

jahaims · Answer

If a guy doesn't want to hangout because of that then you dodged a bullet

Luopio27 · Answer

First date to me is not meant to be sex night! That's 2nd or 3rd night stuff! Let the trust and bond build up!

LiamJHayden · Answer

I never push anything on a first date as we are essentially strangers, so it would not bother me at all.

shades777 · Answer

Depends on the needs of the man. Sex is definitely a need but older men tend to wait younger men don't think waiting is good.

dragoblack · Answer

No. Kissing can be saved for when you both feel the time is righ and you are both comfortable with it. You don't need to feel obligated to do it

Slim57 · Answer

I'd say so, a lot of people will say don't kiss or have sex on the first date, but if it goes well I at least attempt a kiss, which always ends up in more dates if they do

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

No I would have more respect for you if you didn't do that.

Graptemys79 · Answer

I would respect her. A kiss is okay, but sex on a first date?

David5668 · Answer

No, it’s self-respect. And the same should apply if the roles were reversed.

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

she'd be too easy if she did

Makeushiver · Answer

That's a pretty big leap from kiss to sex

hotman5 · Answer

safe yourself for marriage

noohair · Answer

I am old school. This is not bad...

MasterKS · Answer

Its personal preference. some do some not.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

That's a good thing

zombiewoof · Answer

That would be ok

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's not bad.

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