How to stop feeling bad when you see someone better looking than you?

[Anonymous]

Every time I see pretty girls like Brooke Monk I’d be like” oh she’s so pretty. I’m never gonna be one of those pretty girls. I’m ugly.” and feel super bad about myself. I know I’m not ugly, but I just can’t help.

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And I didn’t realize that mentioning Brooke in the question might lead to judgment on her. That wasn’t my intention I swear, I was just scrolling through her reels and felt sad. There are so many girls like her (Shiny long hair, pretty features, and also fit body shape… I don't know they’re just so pretty) and they’re the ones that make me feel “I’m never gonna reach that kind of beauty”.

I get that other people’s beauty doesn’t make me ugly but my low self esteem just wouldn’t shut up.

[morganherrel]

"You don't have to be the best to be good"

When you see someone better than you in one respect, have humility and gratitude.

Admire them for exhibiting a trait that you value and be happy that such accomplishments exist in this world.

[Asker]

Thank u for the advice :) My therapist also said so. It’s something that I have to work on cus i was raised demanded to be perfect, which makes me constantly feel like im never good enough.

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't even worry about such things! it's not like I can do anything about the way I look. Either you like my looks or you don't! Otherwise, who fucking cares? Besides, personality is more important than looks but it Is nicer if it comes in a pretty package.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s hard tbh, there is no one good answer. Everyone compares themselves to other people and we all want to be the best. So I feel ya.


But you can control what decisions you make. You can be healthy and exercise and take care of yourself. You can stay current with outfits and work on your self esteem. Basically just trying to be the best version of who you are.


Do you ever look in the mirror and feel good and proud?

[BarryLiverstone]

by the way I just googled Brooke Monk. Wonder why she uses all that makeup?

[Asker]

Im trying not to jump to the conclusion that “im such ugly monster im worthless” (yeah very extreme) when i see those who appear perfect. It probably takes a long time for me to build up my confidence. There are times I feel so pretty but that confidence doesn’t stay there:/ I’m practicing positive self talk hopefully it’ll help.

And I didn’t realize that mentioning Brooke in the question might lead to judgment on her. That wasn’t my intention I swear, I was just scrolling through her reels and felt sad. I still think she’s so pretty and have beautiful voice but I block her so I won’t see her again for my own good lol.

[BarryLiverstone]

lol good idea to block her if that makes you feel bad. No I didn’t feel like you were throwing shade at all. Like I said I literally just googled her tonight.

Ok so you do feel pretty at times. What are you thinking about or wearing when that happens? Ever journaled or written notes as reminders then

[BarryLiverstone]

But confidence.. no one is born with it and it takes work. I grew up with high expectations and had low self esteem I had to overcome tbh. Follow me if you want help with confidence and advice.

[Anonymous]

Brooke monk isn’t beautiful she tries too hard.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya that’s why I said she’s using too much makeup

[Fury_storm]

brooke monk is not pretty. she is a 4/10

[Asker]

Well if she’s not pretty I don't know what’s considered pretty then

[Fury_storm]

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