Have I need used by her?

[Anonymous]

Inam introverted guy and never came into relationship, so this girl I met at my friends birthday party. SHE took my number for job purpose and we started talking. Went to movie together told her everything about me truly like I never been into relationship.

One thing I am sure she lies to me about herself all the time. No coming to main point, I told her I like her after a month then she stopped talking completely. After some days she was about to go for her mother's treatment in different city. She started to talk again and that really made me feel something is not right. and told me we will talk daily from now on out of blue.

She shifted to new place and we started to talk daily around 3-4 hours, then eventually to talking whole day.

She was lonely in new city so I get it she was talking to me all the time. So I thought she might feel the same way. So she once said I am ready for relationship ( her ex called her that day and made a scene) , and then denied it that she did not mean that.

Now some talking went for a while until her mother gets well and she again move to our city. And then she started to ignore me completely and made no contact for weeks. So this is end of story. Again she contacted me a came to hangout, I got surprised by her coming, and that day she was asking for money.

See I was really anice guy until then she damaged me really and now I just want to hurt people. She changed me by using me.

Pls Suggest whether how will be able to get someone who will like me and not use me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that sounds like a really messed up situation. It seems like this girl may have been using you for her own benefit, without actually having genuine feelings for you. The constant back-and-forth, the lies about herself, and then the sudden requests for money - that's all major red flags.

I'm really sorry you went through that. It's understandable that you're feeling hurt and resentful after being taken advantage of like that. That kind of experience can definitely make it hard to trust people and open up again.

But try not to let this girl's actions change who you are as a person. You were a good, caring guy before you met her, and that's something to be proud of. Don't let her turn you into someone you're not.

The most important thing now is to learn from this experience and set healthier boundaries going forward. Don't pour your heart out to someone so quickly, and be wary of anyone who seems to be taking advantage of your kindness. Trust your instincts if something feels off.

And when you do meet someone new who you're interested in, make sure to communicate your needs and boundaries upfront. Let them know that you're looking for a real, genuine connection, not just someone to use you. The right person will respect that.

It may take some time to rebuild your trust, but don't give up. There are good people out there who will appreciate you for who you are. You just gotta be patient and keep putting yourself out there. With time and the right support, you'll be able to heal from this experience.

In the meantime, surround yourself with friends and family who genuinely care about you. Lean on them for support, and focus on doing things that make you feel good about yourself. You got this, man. Don't let this one bad experience ruin your chances of finding real love down the line.

[Asker]

Tell me how I can make her realise her mistakes...

[Oliverlogan263]

I get it, man, you're really hurt and you want her to realize the messed up way she treated you. That feeling of wanting some kind of payback or justice is understandable. But the truth is, trying to "make her realize her mistakes" probably isn't going to make you feel any better in the long run.

The healthiest thing is to just let her go and focus on moving forward. I know that's easier said than done, but trying to get her to acknowledge what she did wrong is just going to keep you stuck in that negative headspace. She might not even be willing to admit it, and that could just end up frustrating you even more.

Instead, I'd suggest channeling that energy into working on yourself. Hit the gym, pick up a new hobby, surround yourself with supportive friends - anything to rebuild your confidence and remind yourself of your own worth. The best way to "get back" at someone who used you is to show them you're thriving without them.

Ultimately, you can't control her or make her feel remorse. The only thing you can control is how you choose to move forward. Focus on being the best version of yourself. The right person who truly appreciates you will come along when the time is right. In the meantime, don't let this one bad experience define you, man. You've got this.

[MissTrix]

Sorry she fully used you and tossed you away!

Basically you were her friend she held on a string and pulled on and manipulated.

You were never going to be in a relationship with her! She only really wanted her ex or another trash guy like him.

You were to nice and soft for her to fully fall in love with. Sadly women who are damaged they want guys like you but don't fall in love and just use you as a friend. She needed to be dominated and made submissive like her trash boyfriend do to her.

It's toxic and tragic they do!

[Asker]

Any suggestions for me,? I want to hurt people now, can't do anything good for anyone now.

[MissTrix]

You want to hurt them or don't want to?
Sure I have a few!

[Asker]

I want to just them to teach them a lesson so they don't dare to use people like this again

You can pass on your suggestions pls feel free

[MissTrix]

For them they won't learn it! People never learn from getting their own medicine. They think why me I'm perfect! 🤣
Best thing to do is move on or start a blog and just embarrass them on social media!

[Asker]

Yeah right suggest some popular blog website please

[MissTrix]

Don't know many sorry I just wrote erotica with Thier names and posted it all over social midea showing how bad a lover they were.