Why would a friend initiate plans with you multiple times but not follow through/flake?

[Anonymous]

This was a pattern and she never apologized. I was also a student of hers in her yoga class and I noticed she’d be more encouraging to the other students but to me she was more critical (I’m a beginner, but I’m there and I’m trying my best!). I don’t have a history of any drama with her or anyone she knows — we run in different circles. Anyway, she asked me to do coffee once and I agreed and asked which day/time? Then didn’t hear anything. Months go by and she randomly reaches out to me asking to do coffee that Thursday and that she’s sorrry because she’s been traveling a lot…so I agreed on Thursday and then she, again, never followed through on a time or place. Didn’t apologize for that either when I saw her next/had another class with her.

[MissTrix]

People like this drive me crazy! They have no feelings about making plans and missing them constantly!

My sister will make 4 plans on the same day and go to none of them! She "forgets" and never feels sorry about it.

Really she is lazy and likes to get attention for planning. No intention of ever going!

Don't make plans she will do the same thing!

[Asker]

Tbh this girl is so sketchy too — she went from living in a really modest apartment to a $1M penthouse which I find weird. She just got engaged to a really rich guy who has a history of sexual harassment/assault! But who cares about his character right? I don't know it just grossed me out at this point. I think she’s scared of me cuz I’m a genuine person who worked hard for my own money and things — she seems to only like people who will do something for her.

[MissTrix]

Fully agree women who are not real kinda do fear and dislike good normal working people!
If that is the story yeah she puts up with him for money which is common now.
Especially thanks to the last presidents son getting away with it.

[Asker]

LOL and guess what? She doesn’t post her man ANYWHERE on her social media lol. And her “best friend” has cancer and for the cover photo post with her donation link she just put a picture of the city skyline and not the friend.
So no one is good enough for her.

[MissTrix]

Well guess she is a scammer! Better stay clear before she asks you to donate

[Asker]

I notice this with a lot of girls especially if they are indeed very physically attractive. They are mean for no good reason, but it’s weird because I’m also pretty. But I don’t act like them.
I don't know sorry I have a bad gut wrenching feeling just thinking about people like this lol

[MissTrix]

It's a very toxic pretend non toxic place! Gave up fast feeling how fake it is and some gyms whining how unonjudgy they are! Like bs! I'm a pretty girl in being judged walking out the front door

[Anonymous]

You can't change the person. Either accept them or cut them. They might have a lot going on. Which removes the flake factor, but if thats the case then she should stop trying to make plans or be honest they are loose plans.

[DryGermanGuy]

For some people these are just phrases to throw out, like asking how do you do, without expecting or even acknowledging an answer.

[Wise4myage]

She sounds very flaky.