What would you do if you found out your partners’ friend was trying to convince your partner to break up with you?

[Finchie40]

My ex finally confessed to me that her so called girlfriend was trying to break us up and tried coming in between our relationship, which she accomplished but now my ex is apologizing to me and said she should of listened to me , cuz she now realizes her girlfriend is a toxic bitch. I told my ex she had her chance and she blew it. What would you do in this situation? Would you accept your exes apology or tell her to Fuck off?

[lightbulb27]

oh, I don't trust your wife at all:) She's blaming the other woman, but how long has this been going on? She's just making up a reason to avoid responsibility which means if you stay, you'll get sucked right back into the same cycle and it will be your fault again soon enough. It will be going into round #... I lost count... and you might end up dead or worse.

I'd listen, say I hear you, hardly respond and say I wish you best, but it will be without me.

I'd also get the H out of there and fast and disconnect emotionally.

Because it's total BS...

[Finchie40]

Yea I told her No way , she had her chances and she blew it each time , I stood my ground and told her No way , and told her the truth that I want to date other girls’ so I told her she is best to do the same. She is all mad and upset with me because I am not giving into her , I told her I am not a fucking convenience, if you truly loved me , you wouldn’t of sided with that toxic bitch in the first place , so I’m sorry you dug your own grave with that one , so have fun getting yourself out of it. Now she is stomping around the house like a basket case expecting me to have a change of heart and give her another chance. I don’t hate her , I just don’t want to be with her anymore , that ship has sailed the damage is done. She is a very selfish self centered girl that needs serious mental help. I feel bad for her but I can no longer be her convenience, I want a girl that wants me the same way I want her , she changed , I didn’t

[lightbulb27]

yes her scheme didn't work, and I'd wonder what is next... because her security blanket is being pulled. she does need mental help, but if you stay, you will be the one that gets her wrath.
you are young enough that if play your cards right, get your head, body, heart in shape, you could find another woman, maybe younger, easily and restart life.
I think the choice is loving the person, and working with them... or loving them... to let them go and live life because you cannot handle them. I've seen that last one more than once. My relative was fried by his wife and so he divorced. He got married later again and was very happy.
I hope you have some support, in some form or another.

[Finchie40]

Yea she knows I am not fucking around and she knows it’s over between us , even though she keeps trying and trying to play a victim when really she is the piece of shit , I stood my ground with her and now she is shaking in her toes because she knows no one else would want her ass , I told her she is best to find herself another girl because you clearly can’t be with a guy , so you are best to go that route cuz hopefully a guy would be wise enough not to give you a chance whatsoever. I told her I clearly Know now why every guy that was in your life left your selfish ass. She didn’t like hearing that whatsoever , but I clearly stated to her that I am no longer her guy and that I am open to dating other girls’ now , Now she is begging for me back and trying to change stories around like I am the bad guy and she is the good one. I just laugh and shake my head , I don’t hate her , I just know I can’t be with her anymore , I told her she can stay here if she wants to but she is probably better off moving somewhere else , cuz the second I meet a girl , I don’t want to hear you bitching and complaining , and trying to come in between us , because if you do , I will have you removed from this house. she is begging to stay because her health isn’t good , she suffers from type 2 diabetes that is taking a toll on her body , she barely took care of herself so it’s catching up to her fast , so part of me is like do I stay with her and put my life on hold or do I move on and say Fuck her

[Finchie40]

That’s why she is still with me , because I feel bad for her health , I don’t wish her dead but I told her to go live her life and go be happy because you clearly aren’t happy with me , I am not a wind up toy you can play with when it’s convenient for you , I am willing to be your friend but no longer willing to be romantic with you , you burned your bridges to many times with me to the point I can’t give you what you want from me , so it’s best that we just remain friends and live our separate lives , Go have fun cuz i plan on doing the same just not with you

[lightbulb27]

Was well said to her. I question though the "friends part". I'd be distantly connected by way of the kids and what is best for the kids. Otherwise, you are out of her life and put all energy into re-making your own.
I'd avoid the undercutting comments, as not helpful. Direct her back to her therapist because she clearly can't see beyond her problems.
Unless she looks like a truck ran over her, there's plenty of unaware guys she will be able to manipulate. That type usually has the skills to sift others.

[lightbulb27]

you likely could draft some excellent song lyrics with all that knowledge... but a lot of it has already been written and experienced.

[Anonymous]

I'd ask her if she was so weak minded that she could be influenced to listen to her friend over me, how can I trust that she has the qualities and loyalty that I need from a partner.
I'd take some time to decide whether I could see a future with her in it and whether I thought she'd be worth investing more time with.
Needless to say, she'd have to exhibiting all the right behaviours to convince me that she knows she needed it all up.
But if after all that I did decide to continue. It would not be brought up again and it's need to draw a line under it.

[Hjjyffg]

Let my partner make a choice I guess. I don’t think k can control a man. I can tell the truth from my side and if he needs reassurance but other than that he’s a grown ass nigga

[Hjjyffg]

Your ex sounds a bit silly. I’d say stay away. She probably had mixed feelings and it’s better to stay gone than back and forth all the time. those issues she left you over probs will come up again. What were they exactly?

[Finchie40]

You are right , I was thinking the same thing , that she would eventually do this to me again , so I told her I need some time to really think about it , before I give her an answer , she said she understood, She has a lot of selfish qualities about her which pushed us away in the first place ,

[Hjjyffg]

Oh like what qualities? You also have to just think to yourself do you actually wanna be with her again.

[Finchie40]

Mainly double standards , basically things that she didn’t want me doing to her , she turned around and did to me , like she was never wrong and always right. She didn’t follow boundaries that she set with me , it was always her way or no way , amongst other things as well. She was very self centered only caring about what was best for her , so I had enough of it and kicked her to the curb

[Hjjyffg]

Sounds unenjoyable and unfair. No need to go back for another beating.

[Finchie40]

Exactly , I don’t hate her I just don’t feel close to her anymore , too much damage and resentments have surfaced for me to even consider giving her another chance.

[Agape93]

I'd chuckle. Won't work and even if it does, it just shows me they're not loyal to me

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the drama of love and friendship, right? If a friend is waving a giant red flag in your relationship, it's tough! In your shoes, I'd tread carefully. Your ex now realizes the toxicity, which is a start. Forgiveness is fabulous for inner peace, but rekindling old flames—well, that's a personal call. Trust is tricky to rebuild. If you see potential for a healthy future and still have feelings, why not give it a shot? If not, moving on isn't a bad word either. 🕺💃 Make sure whatever choice you make is packed with happiness and peace for you!

[RavVid]

At a time I had three girl friends of my girlfriend resenting me. And yes they took every opportunity to sabotage.

In the scenario I think I would be very context driven. It is hard to go back into a bad relationship once you are out. But I am not gonna lie. It might depend on how contrite she is (and also how cute). If she has learnt a lesson then I might consider accepting her apology.

[Phoenix98]

One of two things.

1# She's gotta cut him or her out of her life because I'm not gonna have some person causing drama and strive in our relationship.

2# I'm gonna take the person out back and have a little conversation with him which of course I'd be recording the whole conversation on my phone in my pocket so that I can use what they say against them later.

[Radiate143]

I had this issue. I cussed out my ex boyfriend and told him what a snake his friend was

[Finchie40]

Yes sadly so called friends’ can cause troubles in our relationships, I have dealt with it a handful of times through the years to the point I no longer really allow friends ‘ to even come close to the girl I am dating , unless I know for a fact that they are a good friend to me that’s it , it’s sad that this sort of thing can happen , why I tell Couples all the time to never prioritize your friends’ over your partner out of respect for your relationship. Friends’ that you thought were your friends’ will back stab you behind your back , I actually knocked out a few so called friends’ through the years that I found out were talking shit and making up bullshit lies to my girlfriend behind my back , their intentions were to clearly pull her away from me , so they could have a chance at her. trying to get her to dump me without my knowledge , to find out through her on what they said. Thankfully my girlfriends didn’t believe a word they said , but it’s still the principle of things , So those friends’ become ex friends’ to me immediately. The one friend I knocked out apologized to me and admitted he was wrong , I am still somewhat friends with him lol

[Radiate143]

Well at least you took her some. The Dorchester took his friends side

[red-lipstick-girl]

OI would never want someone like that, I'd give him the fuck

[Ariesman81]

Do what I did... tell your SO to be careful of the friends advice. And then laugh when they don't listen.

[jahaims]

Break up. If someone chooses to keep someone like that as a friend it is disrespectful to the relationship.

[Jltakk]

Honestly, I'd just hang my head and cry. It's always something preventing me from having a calm life.

[Twalli]

Accept the apology, but probably not take her back.

[Luopio27]

There is no right or wrong answer!
This is a matter of the human heart!


Is she worth a second chance to you?


Are you willing to take the risk?

[Finchie40]

It seems like all I do is give her chances that she keeps messing up on , I told her I need some time to think about it

[Slim57]

Nah once it's done it's done I don't go back for seconds

[NathanDavis]

would not worry one bit at all about it...

[MoonFace2]

You made the right call. Good for you 🥰👍

[LiamJHayden]

Confront the person.

[Ladsin2]

They always do. Women love misery.

[DrPepper12]

Easy!!! Buh bye