Do you think more clearly on your period? Or is this just being overly emotional?

[Anonymous]

So I don't know where to ask this. I dont have anyone to talk to about this. I think I'm still in love with my ex. When I was 17 my family was a huge part of my life. Very religious as well (more them then me). I was in about a year long relationship and I was trying to find who I was still. I posted to Facebook some cringy photos with me wearing my new strapless dress (but didn't show hardly any cleavage. Just more skin then usual on the upper chest {mind you my family never even let me even wear a two piece swim suit, and even then still had me wear a shirt swimming too most the time}) my aunt commented saying I was being seductive and said I was asking to get R worded basically. So my at the time boyfriend defended me. Just simply said "I dont think she's trying to be seductive. She's just being confident" well. My family (grandmother and aunt) got into my mother's head (she's always looked for approval from them anyways bc they told her when my older siblings was born she was wrecking my father's life) and she took everything away from me. They forced me to block him on everything without saying goodbye and grounded me well past a year. Well I'm now almost 26. And still to this day I cry for him at least once a month. It's normally when I'm on my period (normally). I've always thought it was because I get overly emotional while I'm on my period but. Now I'm kind of questioning it. Like the saying of "you speech more truthfully while drunk". Is that true in this situation? After well over a year my mother told me to get over myself and just move on, just find someone new and then I'll forget him. I have made contact with him since then. Off and on. I always get scared and "run away". I'm so effed up in the head from all this. Now I've been in a relationship for almost 7 years. And engaged. But I don't think I want to go through with getting married. I dont even know why I'm so stuck on my ex... all I know is he was perfect in every way that mattered..

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I guess what I'm trying to ask is. Do you think periods impare your thinking due to just being overly emotional? Or do you think periods bring things to light on things you feel deep down (thus thinking more clearly)?

[lil_will_12]

Girl your family is very controlling and kinda insane💀 (absolutely no one asks to be sa’d, and in most cases how someone dresses has absolutely no impact on it) I hate to break it to you, but it sounds like your family is genuinely horrible and controlling. He is a good guy for defending you, id recommend trying to talk to him again

[Asker]

I have come to realize this... I've talked to my mother a little bit about this. And she's opened up a little bit more about it briefly and agreed that she's always looked for my father's parents approval. But she also said she was scared of losing me. Because we were in a long distance relationship and she was scared I'd move very far away. But way back when this first happened basically they were saying that HE was the one that was being controlling and that I had my head in the clouds and that I needed to be brought back down to earth. But now I know they are the controlling ones. He never wanted anything more then to show me the world and wanted me to grow into my own person.. he always respected me and my wishes. Never crossed boundaries. And I have reached out to him multiple times. In the past he's always wanted to try again. And i would always get scared of getting hurt once we start getting close again and I always ran away because I'd get so over whelmed with emotions.

[Cookingnaked1126]

My wife can't think straight when she's having her's! All she thinks about is how to trick me into having period sex with her! I don't know how common it is for women, but she gets EXTREMELY horny when she's on hers.

[Nikki1989]

Nope. My periods don't affect me that much.

[BarryLiverstone]

My understanding is periods add hormones to your body and causes the brain to think differently then when the period has ended. Can you confirm that emotionally it’s different when you have less hormones?

[Asker]

Not always i suppose. Because like last month it was very "emotional" and over thinking about these things eight before my period, then it continued very strongly throughout my period and it actually almost lead all the way to my next period. (Almost) and now that I'm on it again it's kind of come back. I don't know if I have a tendency to just shove things down while I'm off my lady days and then it just bubbles back up and i can't help but feel like while I'm actually on my lady days or I don't know, I don't know what it is. I've also thought that maybe it's just because it's "unfinished business" the "not knowing what would of happened" if we stayed together.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s interesting. So it’s like on your lady days (and at times not) you reflect on the past and think about what could have changed. I’ve actually heard of other girls doing the same thing, like when they didn’t have closure. But I suppose that’s not taking up all your brain thoughts since I learned you can think of many things at once. Does the emotional power ever overwhelm?

[Asker]

Yeah. Id say a lot of the times. It's been 8 years. And I still cry over him. At least once a month.

[BarryLiverstone]

So you think that will continue the rest of your life

[Asker]

I don't know honestly. Right now with how consistent it is, it sure feels like it..

[laraWM]

I've never felt it

[MrZameer]

are you Muslim

[Asker]

No i am not, I grew up around a family that is very Christian

[MrZameer]

Some Christians are also very strict and very religious

[Asker]

Unfortunately