I have always been ghosted, ignored and been treated invisible my entire life, but I don't know why?

[Anonymous]

I've been through multiple friendship breakups, and I apparently thought I was the victim in all of them, until I recently went through a recent friendship breakup with my best friend of three years. Maybe this pattern isn't just a coincidence, maybe I AM the problem. Whenever I'm friendly to a random girl in a bathroom or give her a compliment, she'll look at me, she can definitely hear me but she won't reply like I'm invisible. Whenever I'm in a group setting, I'll say something, everyone will look around and pretend they didn't hear, I'll say it again, nothing. Someone else starts talking, and they've got their attention. Do I need to scream? Can they not hear me? I've always been a people's pleaser, and the therapist friend, so I doubt I say anything insensitive. I don't have a problem with online friends, they always call me for advice instead of their other friends because I know what to say, and I understand. So if THAT'S NOT the flaw, then what is?
y. I never got closure. I don't have a problem with not having friends, I just need the closure. What about me is drawing you away? I'm scared that the same thing will happen with all my online friends when we meet. Why am I unable to keep friends. I asked my friends about my red flags, but I think they won't tell me because they don't want to cause tension? But at this point, I would be eternally grateful, because I'm losing my mind every day, just wanting to know why this always happens.

If anyone ghosted their friend who may sound like me, please tell me what was your reason for ghosting them (please don't sugarcoat, and be brutally honest).

[Summeroflove]

Well complete strangers especially in the bathroom can be a little weird if someone tries having a conversation with me in a restroom it feels extremely awkward so I can’t blame someone there.

As far as ghosting without a exclamation it’s called being a coward and a lot of people just use people whether it’s in romantic relationships or friendships. People use someone and just discard them but also come back when they feel they need something else form your. So that’s not your fault that’s a character flaw in them even if they had a issue they could have handled it like a adult.

Unfortunately people pleasers have good hearts but you need to learn when you’re being used by someone. As well as people who use you as a therapist but are never there for you when you need them. People who are one sided aren’t worth your time and effort a lot of people do that. Use someone when they need something and are just poof…. They gone.

The only time I ever start ignoring a person is if they deserve it. If they either know they did something fucked up or I’ve asked them kindly to leave me alone and they refuse. Otherwise I will give people closure I may not owe someone a long drawn out exclamation but I’m not going to leave someone hanging either.

I don’t think it’s all on you. I don’t know you so I can’t say for sure what it is but

[Joshydavid25]

Oof, yeah I feel that one, the same thing has happened to me.. I think being with being a people pleaser that people can sort of feel a sort of not so confident demeanor.. But also I think that a lot of it may be your perception and a bit of a wounded ego from feeling like your not heard.. Because you're not entirely invisible since people listen to you for advice..

[HusamRocks]

Find someone and make an agreement with them that u spend time together for some days then give u reasons why 🤔 sounds like a plan 😁👍🏻