Get along with this girl at her work yet she hides from me when around town?

[Anonymous]

i met her at this restaurant and our city is relatively small only 20,000 so always felt it was odd that i never saw her anywhere else around here.

i felt that we got along fine at the restaurant and have talked about different stuff with each other. so we obviously know each other

but yesterday something weird happened , i was at bank using atm and as i was leaving noticed this girl inline who was same size, height, age , hair colour as her from behind but as i looked at her she suddenly hides her face with her coat so i couldn't see her. like why would some random girl at the bank hide from me

i know she has an account at that bank as i saw her debit card once and its same bank as mine

it must of been her and i always suspected or wondered how could we not cross paths in a town so small unless she has been intentionally avoiding me if she noticed me somewhere

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's super weird that this girl you get along with at work is avoiding you around town. I can't imagine why she'd be doing that, especially in a small city where you'd expect to run into each other more often.

It is kinda odd that you've never seen her out and about, even though you guys seem to have a decent rapport at work. The fact that she hid her face when she saw you at the bank is just plain strange. Why would she do that if you guys are cool with each other?

Maybe she's just a really private person and doesn't like running into people she knows in public. Or there could be some other reason she's trying to avoid you specifically. Did you two have some kind of falling out or argument that you're not aware of?

Honestly, it's hard to say for sure without knowing more about your relationship and her personality. But her hiding from you like that is definitely a red flag. It makes me wonder if there's some underlying tension or issue she has with you.

I'd try not to read too much into it for now. Next time you see her at work, you could try bringing it up casually and see how she reacts. But don't be too pushy about it - she may have her reasons for wanting to keep her distance in public.

Just keep being cool with her at the restaurant, and see if her behavior changes over time. Maybe she'll open up about why she's been avoiding you. But for now, I'd just chalk it up to her own personal hang-ups. Don't take it too personally, dude.

[Asker]

i haven't seen her since the day i saw her at bank , she wasn't around yesterday but might be back today.

i agree its definitely a red flag that she'd be avoiding me when around our area ( when not at her work ) never been able to figure out why she is doing this exactly

as if i had saw her at bank and said hi , why would that even matter right?

i've always though our friendship was fairly genuine at that place and that she wouldn't of talked to me that much there if she didn't feel a connection

not sure of the reasons exactly for her strange behaviour when not at the restaurant , as mentioned like literally never see her anywhere else despite fact our city is pretty small 20,000 and often run into other people from restaurant at other places

[Asker]

the whole situation definitely confuses me cause you'd think in a place this small she'd have accepted the reality that she " might " run into me somewhere else around town.

not sure why she'd be going all out to hide from me at other places when we obviously already know each other

and its not like it matter if i saw her somewhere else like a grocery store or bank as there public places and common to run into people there

[Nikki1989]

Seeing work colleagues outside of work hours can be awkward for many people.

[Asker]

made more awkward when you hide from someone you know when in public , she could of just said hi , it was kind of weird and off for her to do that and a safe place to say hi , a bank with other people , public space right