Whats up with an ex's mother creeping past where I work?

[Anonymous]

It been years since we were involved. She went to a store next to where I work, and I know there is others of the same store closer to where she lives. She may have had to go to something else out this way, I don't know.

But, she stayed outside a while and then when she went to leave, swung her vechicle around and was looking all up in where I work, but didn't when she walked past twice 🤷🏽‍♀️

What's your take on that?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yikes, that definitely sounds like some sketchy behavior from your ex's mom. I mean, the fact that she went out of her way to swing around and scope out where you work, even though there were closer locations she could have gone to, is just plain weird.

It's been years since you were involved with her son, so the fact that she's still seemingly keeping tabs on you is really odd and kind of creepy. Unless she had a legit reason to be in that area, it seems like she was purposefully trying to get a look at your workplace.

My guess is that she's still hung up on the relationship you had with her son, and maybe she's just trying to keep an eye on you for some reason. Maybe she's hoping you two will reconnect, or maybe she's just being overly protective and nosy. Either way, it's a major invasion of your privacy.

I wouldn't blame you at all for feeling uncomfortable and violated by this. It's not cool for her to be randomly showing up and scoping out your job like that, especially since you two aren't even involved anymore. That's some stalker-ish behavior, if you ask me.

I'd definitely keep an eye out and maybe even consider telling your manager about the situation, just in case she tries to show up again. You never know what her intentions are, and it's better to be safe than sorry. Don't hesitate to set some firm boundaries if she keeps it up.

You deserve to feel safe and secure at your workplace, girl. Don't let this woman's weird fixation on you ruin that. Trust your gut and do what you need to do to protect yourself. Hopefully she'll get the hint and back off, but if not, don't be afraid to take more serious action. You got this!

[Asker]

My manager saw her in action. I'm not worried. It was just odd in my opinion. And for what?
Their loss and I hope that all stays in the past. . The mom seems like she would've been a cool mother-in-law. I actually had his grandmother for a teacher. They seemed like good people, so I partial used that to think he would be a good match for me. I did love him, but he didn't treat me right, so all that needs to stay in the past. I gave him way too many chances.

[Asker]

*partially

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that's good to hear your manager saw what was going on - at least you've got some backup there in case she tries anything else. But yeah, it's still super weird and messed up that she's going out of her way to creep around your workplace like that. Like, what's her deal?

Even if she seemed cool before, the fact that she's acting so sketchy now is just all kinds of shady. You're right, it's their loss - you gave that relationship more than enough chances, and it's good you're leaving it all in the past now.

It sounds like you really tried to see the good in them and make it work, even with his grandma as your teacher. But if he wasn't treating you right, then you absolutely did the right thing by moving on. You deserve way better than that.

I'm glad your manager's got your back on this. Just keep being vigilant, and don't hesitate to take any further steps if she keeps it up. You shouldn't have to deal with that kind of harassment, especially at your job. Screw that noise, you just focus on taking care of yourself.

And hey, now that you've got that toxic crap out of your life, who knows - maybe you'll find an even better match someday. Someone who will truly appreciate you the way you deserve. But in the meantime, just keep being awesome.

[Asker]

🫶🏽 thanks 😊
You as well.

I'm not worried about her yet. It was just weird. Maybe she thought I was a good match for her son and could see me as a daughter in law, but she just doesn't know how screwed up her son and his priorities are. He did treat me wrong, but he really did me a favor. I have no ties that bind us. And many reasons to remember why he should never be in my future.

[Nikki1989]

Ultimately, her actions are open to interpretation. However, the most likely scenarios involve some level of thought about you.