Why do I feel so uncomfortable being feminine in Britain?

[Puppystarfish23]

I'm a British girl with norwegian anstey so I'm blonde, blue eyes and have a very pretty Disney princess like face.

I've always been extremely girly and I love wearing pretty dresses and heels but I feel not many women in my country feel the same and I can honestly see why after the past couple days.

When I walk around with my husband I feel safe to dress feminine but other white women are just wearing boring black leggings and a basic zara jacket. I saw a really pretty black lady wearing a dress and heels and we both smiled at each other as if we were saying it's nice to finally see another woman who isn't afraid to be feminine.

I feel other women are judging me like I'm a slut or a whore for dressing girly. I don't do it for men I just enjoy being girly and pretty and that's all I know how to dress. I can't imagine going out dressed in boring plain clothes it just doesn't feel right to me.

I also understand why they don't dress feminine because of men. As soon as I step outside in a dress I feel all men's eyes on me and it's an horrible uncomfortable feeling. I just want to run back in my house and hide.

I travelled a lot growing up and I'd see lots of beautiful women dressed beautifully but in the UK it's almost summer and people are dressed like it's a funeral.

I've even been mistaken for a American or a gypsy because I dress feminine and keep good care of my appearance.

I'd say I do dress like an preppy American sorority girl but I'm young and pretty why shouldn't I dress nice.

I feel so anxious when I go outside now and as if I need to hide away especially if I know I'm going to be around men that day.

The other day I went to a meeting at my work and it was all men and they were dressed in shorts and t shirts because it was 27 outside and I was wearing jeans and jumper because I was so self conscious of them staring at me if I showed abit if skin.

Updates

1 y

I've experienced this in the past. I had to go to a emergency meeting at work and I was dressed in my normal clothes. I was wearing a demin t shirt dress and I could see all the men looking me up and down and at my legs. It felt so embarrassing

Updates

1 y

I'm apparently a troll now because no women has apparently felt self conscious before

[ProbablyClueless]

I'm not a woman, so I know that everything I say here ought to be taken with a mountain of salt. But I spent many years of my life feeling insecure and judged, so I do know a thing or two about that.

The discomfort you're feeling in Britain is likely discomfort you'd experience just about anywhere else because it's a result of wanting to feel appreciated by the world around you.

I'd say the big first step is find a way to get comfortable saying "this is me, you either take it or leave it for what it is."

[glennos89]

I'm from the Netherlands but when I look at British woman in general then I'm fucking happy that I don't live over there because British woman are loud, bad behaved and not particularly feminine. I think I would become gay if I had to live there😂

[Puppystarfish23]

That abit rude, maybe you have a issue with women being confident in themselves and acting the same way men have for years without judgment. But maybe being gay would be the right choice for you

[RageBabe]

If you're not getting paid to troll, give it up.

[Puppystarfish23]

Why would I be getting paid to troll? I have a full time job honey maybe you should consider getting one instead of leaving negative comments on people you don't know posts for no reason

[capriVib]

It seemed a bit silly to me. If you're always like this, shouldn't you already be used to men staring at you

[Puppystarfish23]

I'm definitely not used to it as often as this. I think before covid people used to dress nice like this all the time but now everyone dressed in track pants and hoodies.

It's only as I've gotten I've become more aware of it. I used to be so naive about it and have creepy old men make comments towards me and ie actually say thank you back instead of being creeped put because I thought it was Innocent

[Puppystarfish23]

Older

[capriVib]

If someone makes a rude comment, you can either clap back or just ignore it. People aren’t really that invested in anyone else anyway. No need to overthink it too much.

[theautomemoriesdozz]

You're actually just average looking, definitely not a Disney princess and I think you're trolling.

[RageBabe]

They are definitely trolling.

[Puppystarfish23]

@RageBabe who are you? What makes you think I'm trolling

[Puppystarfish23]

@RageBabe your definitely a bitch

[Jennz6]

Show us your face

[Puppystarfish23]

I've uploaded a picture of myself on my profile

[Jennz6]

That’s good enough thank you dear

[Jennz6]

@puppystarfish23
Beautiful, don’t feel uncomfortable

[Puppystarfish23]

Thank you for listening to me instead of being mean like others

[Jennz6]

@puppystarfish23
Never, not me

[lonelygalexy]

Maybe you should move from uk, maybe to belgium.

[Puppystarfish23]

I'd actually love to go Belgium

[xyzguy1296]

Hi , i want ask something in private

[Puppystarfish23]

Wtf 🤣

[Heusus]

Troll

[Puppystarfish23]

How am I a troll

[Heusus]

I think ur a troll bc i think the person in ur profile pic isn't u, its probably a model or an actress

[Puppystarfish23]

Oh thank you im flattered 🤣 you know you can check on Google if I'm fake.

[Puppystarfish23]

I'm outside the St. Stephen's Basilica in Budapest in that picture too

[Heusus]

Very nice pic🙂

[GuybrushFunkwadd]

Come to India

[Puppystarfish23]

I live in the UK not that different

[GuybrushFunkwadd]

Yes, I will be moving to UK in a few years too, it's a great place.

[Puppystarfish23]

Not if your British