Ladies, what are your intentions?

[Anonymous]

I already know the answer to this but I was curious of your thoughts. So my friend and I had a serious fling last year but she got with someone else after me who wanted a relationship with her and got her pregnant. Problem is that she’s been miserable making that choice. They live together but he doesn’t help with anything at all or bills. She has 2 kids now. She hasn’t had sex in almost a year since getting pregnant from the guy. She’s in situationship. Fast forward to yesterday, as she left work and I hugged her bye; asked if I had any plans this morning. Told her nothing crazy but yard work and stuff. Then she asks if she could come over to my place after she drops off her kids off. And the man child or whatever he is to her is at home. I already know what she wants. But I’m curious of what she’s thinking. Anyone been in her shoes before?

[SueShe]

So, basically she wants to come over to your place for fornication, I presume, right?

And you are probably also going to give it to her I presume since she did not copulate for one entire year. If you lower yourself to do that, you know what that would make you?

Right, that would make a homewrecker out of you and a hoe and cheater out of her. If you are a gentleman and a decent person, then you will of course not agree with that scheme and leave her untouched.

Are you a gentleman and a decent person or will you rather rather be someone else?

[Asker]

That does make a lot of sense. It’s complicated for her. She doesn’t wanna be with him and he keeps saying he’ll change & wants a relationship with her but he doesn’t. She’s 9 years older than him; all he does is work a lot, drinks with his fans, gets mad at her for working too late even she has too cause he won’t pay any bills to help her or stuff for their son. She doesn’t even wanna touch him at all. So it’s complicated. But you are right

[SueShe]

Well, then you are a friend and a such, taking advantage of that situation is not going to help her. In fact, it is going to make it worse for her because if her husband finds out she is being intimate with another man, then she will take all the blame at the end and the divorce is going to be blamed on her.

[Asker]

They’re not married. It was one of those weird nights; he was a roommate, messed around drunk, got her pregnant and she wants nothing to do with him cause he hasn’t taken anything serious, acts like a child, doesn’t pay for nothing but asks her for money and uses her car & credit card and he’s afraid to be around his own child and gets angry with hers. She’s stuck cause they have a kid together. Me and her have crazy chemistry in

[SueShe]

And what is going to happen once she drops at your place. You have a good chemistry and the next step will be:

"Asker, can I move in with my kids and will you be the substitute dad for them"?

What will your reaction be then?

[Asker]

Once she sells her 3 apartment building, she’s gonna buy a house. And it probably would be her asking me to move in not just cause we have great chemistry and look good together but with how great i am with kids