My sister is a pick me, how do I deal with it?

[Anonymous]

I have no one to talk about this to because it isn’t acceptable to talk about your sibling that way. My sister is 7 years older than me and she loves attention from guys, this doesn’t bother me when it doesn’t meddle with my own love life. Recently a guy 5 years younger than her started working in the same office she works at, she barely talked about him only said that he was a good guy but after a month or so she suggested that I should meet him like a coincidence so I agreed I visited her at the office and I met him we talked for around 20 mins by the convo and the way he was looking at me he seemed interested and he asked my sister about me after I left. So she told me but then immediately mentioned that they get along so well and he was so mad and upset when he found she’s much older than him and how they laugh and joke around all day implying he actually likes her. I had a guy that’s been trying to date me since 2015 so my mom was telling me that maybe I should give him a chance and as soon as I thought I would, she started mentioning that he’s disgusting and he used to like her when he was a teenager back in 2015 and that he just wants any girl. And she visits a store where a guy that’s our neighbor works I never went there and I needed to buy something so I went there with her and the guy was my age and we were joking around, she started making comments embarrassing me in front of everyone. I asked her which top I should get and she started saying make your decision yourself because when we get home you’ll start crying saying I made you choose the wrong top implying that I was childish ( mind you the last time I’ve done this I was in fourth grade and I didn’t know you can return or exchange clothes) then she turned to him and said careful she’s a Scorpio (my astrological sign) she’s hard to deal with and she may sting. P. S she doesn’t date guys younger than her nor is she interested in any of theses guys

[PeachyPie93]

I don't think she is a pick me she is just jealous of you. My older sister is the same way with me and always gives me horrible dating advice that would make the guy not like me. I don't get my sisters jealousy tho since she was always the "hot" one but it's like she wants to always be superior to me and not let me have anything. Same as she always had to try to steal my friends.. or take things someone else gave me.. but she acts totally oblivious of how she behaves and always says I'm her best friend 👀 The only good thing is I am aging better than her and get more guys attention now than she does, which makes me feel a little better 😅

[Batsy01010101]

Wrong she's not jealous she's being an older sister bully tormenting her younger sister for amusement

[Asker]

Yes exactly she acts like we’re best friends then does something that hurts my feelings. She was always the hot one until I grew up and started getting attention from both girls and guys and people usually compliment me

[Asker]

@Batsy01010101 no she’s not that kind, she is used to having all the attention from guys, she’s like that generally. She accepts random guys follow requests so that she would have them comment on her pics and tell her she’s pretty even thought she’s not interested in them at all and when I was young she used to get the undivided attention as I was extremely shy and reserved and before my glow up after school

[PeachyPie93]

I know same here, its like we have the same sister lol..

[FreyaRed]

When you don't like competition with her, don't play the game

[Joshydavid25]

She's just being a butthole and is envious of you... I wouldn't call that "pick me" behavior.. Because like you mentioned she doesn't care about guys younger than her, she's just trying to sabotage your chances of being with them.. Being petty basically.. Although you mentioned the age gaps, which aren't really that big at all.. The guy wasn't so much younger than her at only 5 years..

[RingOfFire]

I agree with others who have said not to worry so much about how to deal with your sister but focus on your own behavior. You can't control how other people act but you can control how it makes you feel and how you react to it.

It sounds like your sister has some issues. We all do (except me of course). Try to ignore her behavior and just be the best you that you can be.

[RingOfFire]

The guy you want is the guy who doesn't listen to what other people think about you but judges for himself what he thinks of you.

[Asker]

I’m doing my best to ignore

[Asker]

I know that if a guy really wants ME he’ll want me regardless of what she does

[RingOfFire]

That is exactly right. 🙂

Not only that but that's a guy who is worth your attention.

[RingOfFire]

One thing that might help with your sister is that when she does things like that step back in your mind and make believe you are a stranger. View her as a stranger would view her. Try to put your emotions aside.

If I was a stranger watching that I might even feel sorry for her. It's behavior that is saying to people that she has a problem.

If you can understand her behavior it's better for you because it'll keep you from being angry and upset. Think of it as feeling bad for her and don't be embarrassed because it's not your problem it's hers and a stranger recognizes that.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats not "pick me" behavior, thats just being an asshole to her sister.

[Asker]

She wants all the guys to pick her, there are many other examples I can’t mention everything.

[TheSpaceGnome]

She isn't picking anyone though, she's just blocking you specifically.
If she wanted any of those guys to pick her, she would be taken already.

[ChicoFromThe305]

How about you just ignore her and not give a shit what she says, stop listening to her, she's single for a reason, you don't gotta even tell me, I know she's single

[Anonymous]

Tell everyone she's a nose that just wants to be picked, or a cocktease, or every guy you find she's interested in she's a lesbian and just plays guys because she has a girlfriend.

She's set the rules, so play by them...

[wynning]

A pickme is a tryhard and it's possible she is that but this is just rude behaviour.

[ohsheeT]

Well you sound like you have a beautiful heart and your kind

Maybe the best thing to do is just just find somebody on your own that way you don't have to deal with your mom and your sister about it

[ProbablyClueless]

Eh... not much you can do besides picking someone else 😂

[Anonymous]

Tldr the whole thing but I'm still going to cut your ling boring dragged out story short and tell you what you don't want to hear and it's the cold hearted truth HE'S NOT INTO YOU THE WAY YOU WANT HIM TO BE he likes your sister more

[Opinion Owner]

🤣🤣after my response i read the rest of your long winded dragged out narrative only to see i was right

[Asker]

I’m not sure which guy you’re talking about as there are multiple in the story, and I didn’t mention how the thing ended I only mentioned how my sister acted, he actually sent me a follow request on insta and we’re still in the talking stage and I’m the only girl he follows other than his cousins soooo

[Opinion Owner]

Then he'll start asking you questions about your hot sister which you'll be stupid enough to answer

[Reem12345reem]

Move out or cut her from your life , jealous people could RUIN you seriously

[Nikki1989]

The “pick me” silliness is just a childish myth.

[Anonymous]

I think you should not interfere with your sister's life. Let her be whatever she wants. It's none of your business.

[Asker]

When did I interfere in her life?

[beefcakebradybatson]

Is her name Sting Ray?(Don't laugh, Sting Ray Robb {his actual name !!!] is on the IndyCar circuit !!!)

[Anonymous]

Ignore it and focus on improving yourself.

[Asker]

That’s what I’m doing but it annoys me as she does many other things I didn’t mention

[seeyounexttuesday]

How about you find guys and don't involve your sister?

[Godihateyou]

You mind your fucking business and leave her alone.

[MasterKS]

ignoring is the best way to deal with assholes.

[MasterKS]

@asker you agree?

[Asker]

I’m already ignoring but until when

[MasterKS]

@asker till you move on.

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah, not sure I get the “pick me” thing

[SotiCoto]

Learn to paragraph.

[Anonymous]

That's not a pick me.

[blackeagle007]

What’s a pick me

[SamWinchester058]

Ehhhh... This story proves you're childish. 😂

[Anonymous]

You should try the diplomatic approach.

[Anonymous]

That's not a pick me. She just hates you.

[Batsy01010101]

She's picking on her because she's the older sister bullying her far from a pickme far from jealousy