Why do so many women feel like they are “poor victims” when men stop giving them attention?

[Anonymous]

I noticed this pathetic “woe is me” IG post about people mocking a woman’s body after she delivered a child.

For the life of me I’ve never once in my entire life heard a man (or a woman) verbally mock a woman’s physique after giving birth. In fact modern feminism has literally outlawed men from negatively commenting on a woman’s physique for any reason (vice versa is fine though).

This IG post is really about a sense of entitlement when it comes to getting attention. Some women feel they are “poor victims” when men stop noticing them after they age, gain weight, deliver babies or worse they voluntarily make themselves less attractive e. g. get excessive visible tattoos, quit shaving, dye their hair unnatural colors, dress like a slob, etc.

No man would ever get away with acting like a “poor victim” if fewer women noticed him because he’s balding, gained weight, aged, etc. They definitely know they have zero room to complain if they voluntarily made themselves less attractive (bad hygiene, not exercising, etc.) We know that would be pathetic and no one would care.

But why do women continue to have a sense of entitlement when it comes to attention?

[Summeroflove]

Well it’s not just women there is plenty of men too there is one condition called narcissism that is spreading like wildfire. Narcissists NEED attention so if you meet someone whose a narcissist you will see this attention seeking behavior. Whether that’s positive or negative attention they just need the attention.

When people cry wolf making stories up that never happened when things really are said and done to people that are wrong people tend to be sick of hearing it so real victims aren’t heard. It’s also the entitlement of people. Feminists for instance don’t want to be objectified. But they’re also proud sluts and better be sexy even if they’re overweight and refuse to take care of themselves just like incels may never take a shower but want a beautiful woman who takes care of herself.

Most women don’t act like this. But social media is a breeding ground for narcissists out in the wild Though not everyone’s like that. Some people are but they majority aren’t.

[Shiprex]

LOL

The girls are gonna hate on you here but it's human nature to WANT attention when you're used to getting it. Nothing new to speak about here.

Men grow up not getting attention unless they're special in some way. Sometimes that's good but not a certainty.

Women grow up receiving it and when it drops off that may negatively affect self esteem.

[Asker]

There are few women on GAG who are part of the “modern woman” wave and have voluntarily made themselves less attractive (excessive tattoos, nose piercings, unnaturally colored hair, etc.).

The thing is no one is forcing them one way or another to make their own choices. They have the freedom to do so But they think can control male PREFERENCES. They act like victims of “patriarchy” when they voluntarily make themselves less attractive. That’s what I’m really sick of.

[Shiprex]

Nothing wrong with tattoos in my opinion. Their character and personality is more important. All this cosmetic obsession with women's appearance I find gross.
The notion that there's double standards is not new it's been around forever just that media is allowing the toxic elements to be heard louder

[Asker]

Yep some guys have no problem with tattoos on a woman. I won’t vocally say anything (I’m not allowed to) but for me a woman with tattoos is like putting bumper stickers on a Ferrari. It’s wrecks their natural beauty (it’s okay if you feel differently).

But you are 100% right about about “the media is allowing the toxic elements to be heard louder”.

[Shiprex]

A bumper sticker is no different to a prancing horse logo on a ferrari.

[Shiprex]

@asker thanks for the MHO

[Asker]

No worries about MHO. It’s fine if you’re fine with ink (I imagine you got some yourself).

I personally see it as a big decision to get tattoos. Especially if they are highly visible. I won’t automatically disqualify a woman because of it but it’s a yellow flag for me personally.

[Shiprex]

I don't have one actually but would like to get one. I suggested to my wife to design one for me as a wedding band instead of having a metal ring that can get lost as a sign of forever being hers. She didn't go for it.
I personally find them interesting and even attractive: Interesting because they tend to have a meaning or story that allows you to find out more about the nature of the person that makes communication easier.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't consider an Instagram post a reliable source of information.

[Asker]

Fair point. I was just really annoyed it showed up in my feed.

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Anonymous]

And yet, you troll with this pathetic attention-seeking question.

[Anonymous]

If you act mature you attract the attention of mature partners.