Is it messed up that any guy I have sex with gets up and gets dressed& leaves right away after?

[ChristianMaeTorres]

I'm trying my best to not get offended but it's like they are all in some kind of a club. Like how is every single one the same exact way to me?

I've had friends with benefits in the past and none were exactly like another. All were different. Some guys wouldn't mind being close after, some didn't care for it but I thought it was called FRIENDS with benefits.

Is it me or is the friendship part completely non existent anymore? I'm literally starving for connection with someone who isn't on some sort of a time limit, which seriously? Every grown ass man I happen to meet all exhibit the same exact behaviors? What in the actual fuck.

It's hurtful, you don't ever allow a woman, doesn't matter who she is, to share her WHOLE SELF with you and just disregard her like trash after the fact.

If you'll cuddle and do all that kinda stuff before sex, at least have the decency to not ditch out right away. Fake it if you have to, because that shit destroys self esteem and self worth.

If your going to approach a woman with a friends with benefits situation, make sure you actually act like a friend otherwise express what your intentions are.

[OneViewpoint]

How are you approaching the "friends with benefits" relationship? Are these guys you just met, maybe dated twice, and then in the sack you go? The friends with benefits conversation is sort of an after the fact discussion?

Or, are you doing the friends with benefits things with someone who is actually a friend initially? A guy you've known for a year or two, you've been friends or part of a friend group but, nothing ever happened romantically? So you decide what the hell, why not, let's give friends with benefits a shot.

The first scenario is almost always gonna be signing up to be a booty call. The second scenario has a better chance of there being some bond of friendship where you care about each other as a friend first and the sex is just honestly a side benefit. That's where he and you are gonna want to stick around after sex, cuddle, talk, maybe have a cup of coffee, maybe sleep over.

You may be looking in all the wrong places for a Friend With Benefits.

[ChristianMaeTorres]

Honestly sex has always been the main objective as long as I've been sexually active. Maybe I just have the wrong mindset? I honestly don't know, I'm so used to sex like right away, like first day kinda thing. So now I'm just wired that way I guess. And that's usually always the main reason I feel like a lot of guys approach me tbh. I could be reading it wrong but I doubt it but I've always been more on the promiscuous side. It's just in good fun, on my end. But yes it happens really quickly. Why is that such a negative though?

[OneViewpoint]

It's not a negative necessarily if you're both on the same page. But you're not. You're complaining that guys you fuck the same day you met them won't hang around and cuddle and talk to you after they cum. Did you ever consider it may be pretty awkward for them? They fucked you and don't even know you. What's to talk about? They're not mind readers. They don't know what you expect. They're just lying in bed naked with a total stranger. They probably did not have any plan beyond draining their balls and tickling your clit to orgasm. So tell em. "Hey, hang around. Cuddle. Let's have a cup of coffee." You may have to teach them they don't have to run away afterward.

[Anonymous]

There’s a good chance it’s you. The one thing that is constant in all these encounters is you. I don’t know your background as far as deep meaning relationships. I don’t know your upbringing as far as your relationship w your father or things like that. But we tend to attract the same type of people even if we don’t want those type of people on our life based off of the energy we give out. A lot of women who have been in abusive relationships tend to end up w men like that. Not that they choose to, it just happens. Somehow that man finds that woman. He may consciously or subconsciously know what to look for. Too of you were just sleeping around when you were younger you may have gotten that reputation as someone to just sleep w. The other thing, which I won’t say is 100% the reason but at your age a lot of men want a younger girl.

[Nikki1989]

Many men, use, abuse and leave a trail of damage behind them. I am sorry this happened to you, but this is just the way many men are wired.

[EmmaMary]

This would appear to be classic cases of "Wham Bam Thank You Ma'am".

[EmmaMary]

Thank you so much for the MHO.

[Genie23]

Why are you still sleeping with random guys/friends with benefits if it hurts you and they're affecting you so badly? You clearly need intimacy, not just sex. What you're expecting is something a guy would happily do for you only when he has feelings for you. So, maybe just stop this casual thing and when you're ready.. start dating instead. Any guy who will genuinely likes you won't want to leave you right after sex. He'll not just cuddle but also treat you right in every way so you won't feel all those negative feelings that you're feeling now.

[jahaims]

That's what happens when you are a human cum rag

[Cherrysherrylady]

No norm3