Girls, I think I've fallen for a incel am I crazy?

[Anonymous]

Let me explain before you judge me.

I started lurking incel forums. It’s absolutely vile in there—hatred, bitterness, disgusting views about women.

But then… there’s this one guy.

He posts a lot, he talks about how his parents, especially his mother, belittle everything he does. About how school inflicted trauma, how love feels like an unreachable fantasy, how his hatred is a facade but deep down, he just wants to escape it. He just wants to dwell with the girl he loves—if that person even exists for him.

The scary part? He feels like the male version of me and even has similar interests.

I know it’s insane. But I still find myself scrolling… waiting for his next post… wondering if I could ever talk to him.

So I scroll. And I wait. And I wonder.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Girl, no. Why are you even on those forums in the first place? They’re just beacons for negativity and bad vibes, why would you willingly expose yourself to that?

[Asker]

I kinda got exposed to it through Reddit honestly, and after seeing how crazy some of the stuff was I kept going on out of curiosity.

[Asker]

Any advice on the boy? I feel like he'd understand me and has many overlapping intrests.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Just because you relate to his moments of vulnerability (with a presumed male audience) does NOT mean he’d want to date you. I’m glad he recognizes the toxicity he’s apart of but he’s also continuing to do it, he’s not making any changes to be a better man, he’s just blaming everyone but himself when he’s very obviously the problem. Do NOT start a relationship with the expectation that you or they will change, that’s toxic as hell.

[Asker]

Maybe i like him because he seems desperate for love just like me.

Like he'd be more willing to love due to his struggles.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’re projecting, you know it

[Anonymous]

Play stupid games win stupid prizes, enjoy when he beats you in his basement