If women want men to express their feelings more, why do so many women call men who do, whiners?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Well all women are different so let’s start there. There are women who want men to be able to show emotions to them and that’s the best type of woman. A woman who lets you shine and be strong and everything to the world but with her is safe to express things such as emotions as well as show your genuine self around.

But if a woman’s a narcissist nothing will ever be good enough. If you’re too emotionless you’re not there for her and have no emotions. If you show emotions you’re whiney and weak. If a woman shuts down genuine emotions she probably lacks empathy as well as any sense of nurture.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Women want men to express their feelings so they can dump them for not being a real man afterwards.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm really disheartened by the responses by the men. I wish this wasn't a widely purported "truth" but too many men have faced this. I don't blame for their opinions, clearly they've experienced one too many crooks!

I guess all I can do is be the change I wish they'd see. I would love for men to express their feelings more, just as women do.
Only if it's comfortable of course but it's rant up to other people to MAKE it comfortable enough for them to open up. Because it really is a beautiful thing. And I can only pray that it'll be cherished by someone empathetic out there.

BeeNee · Accepted Answer

Nothing nailed the comedy of us women claiming we want an emotional man in touch with his feelings more than the scene from the movie "Bedazzled."

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I saw this quote elsewhere and i thought it brilliantly succinct.
“Of course women want men to be vulnerable. How else are they going to hurt you?”

More often than not it’s a trap. Women don’t want men to just say everything they’re thinking and feeling. They want you to say only exactly what they think you should be thinking and feeling. This is an absolute rule: if she doesn’t approve of what you’re feeling or how you’re expressing it, she will not accept it with understanding and grace.
You are 100% better off just sharing your deepest, darkest thoughts and feelings with your male relatives and friends. They’re the only ones who will truly understand and accept you regardless.
Let your women complain that you’re too stoic. At least then they will respect you and are far less likely to use anything you say or do against you.

juleyboo74 · Answer

as a woman i do not want my man to expresss his feelings in the modern sense... my man is an alpha, i prefer him confident and in control. But there is context - romantic, intimate moments, then please give me all the lovey dovey you can come up with... on vacay at the beach and in a quiet moment he tells me something intimate, I love it.

But everyday life - I don't. That's a political construct, trying to indoctrinate and change men for our benefit, which it doesn't benefit us. Men and women are designed differently - its okay

Anonymous · Answer

lol good one. You’re right, a lot of women do that. They want a man who’s in touch w his feelings, who can talk to her about how he feels. But then she gets tired of it, now he’s just whining. What’s even worse for her is when he points out what’s wrong w their relationship, especially when he points at things she does or doesn’t do. Now she doesn’t like it. A majority of women can’t handle the truth, especially when it comes out the way men tend to speak to each other. We have to express it delicately. Forget that she cheated on him or stole thousands of dollars from him, if you say you fucking did this or you fucking did that. The issue isn’t what she did, the issue is how you said it now you’re the bad dude lol so you need to apologize not her

OneViewpoint · Answer

Because women have no idea what they want. They are like children. Never satisfied. Always wanting more or new and shiny.

A guy who keeps it all inside is emotionally unavailable and closed off. While a guy who’s dumb enough to open up is effeminate and needy, not manly enough.

Simple rule of thumb. Never share anything real with a woman unless you want to get rid of her fast.

McLlovin · Answer

They don’t actually want to hear your issues. Its like when someone says “hows things”, they don’t actually care its just a formality of conversation. If you find someone to talk to who actually cares then awesome, but in the meantime be careful who you open up to

Anonymous · Answer

men are whiners. just the same way you see 95% of questions on GAG are comprised of men whining about women.

when men get rejected, they set the world on fire

when women get rejected, they suffer silently.

thats the difference

demonics · Answer

They want you to express the *correct opinions* until of course the winds change and a new opinion arises and now your opinions are wrong again. Happens all the time. Thing you supported yesterday is now bad today. Thing they mocked and ridiculed yesterday is now a core value of theirs today. And all of it based around being liked by the crowd.

rtj1211 · Answer

'Women are irrational, that's all there is to that: they heads are full of cotton, hay and rags!' Professor Henry Higgins, Mr Fair Lady...

Anonymous · Answer

Because women don't actually want men to express their feelings more. They just say that because it's what they think they are supposed to say. The reality is that women see men who express their feelings like women do as weak and pathetic.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow, there are some angry, lonely men in these comments.

Pohjolan · Answer

They want emotional men in abstract, not in practice.

qwerty2469 · Answer

If you are listening to women talk you already lost the battle. They dont know shit about dick.

Anonymous · Answer

It's because they were indoctrinated by the damn patriarchal society.

Anonymous · Answer

Expressive doesn't mean whining and crying like a baby 24/7.

MemeSupreme · Answer

toxic women do that

melis765 · Answer

I wonder why I don't know either

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