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I asked a guy I was having very emotionally intimate sex with, about where I could meet firemen and cops.
He was shocked. He replied "?"
I said "I've always wanted to get with one".
He asked "why are you asking me this?"
I said " well you said you knew a lot of cops in your family so maybe you could help me find someone"
Then he scheduled to meet up with me and never showed up.
lol that was a dumb ass question. Imagine if he asked you if you knew where he could meet women a bigger tits or a bigger ass, or something you lack that maybe you wee insecure about? Maybe you wouldn’t care considering you didn’t even care about what you asked him. For one it tells him he’s not enough. Two you made yourself look like a whore. Three it shows you have no loyalty even if you two were just FWBs, because you’re willing to fuck members of his family. This is probably why you’re still single at your age. Bad personality that no man wants.
Ok? And what makes you think I need to stay loyal to an friends with benefits?
You're probably a slut too. Only sluts "slut shame" others.
Im single cus i have rejected way too many men in the past. I can tell immediately right off the bat if I want to impress a guy for marriage and he isn't someone I care to impress.
If I like a guy, I definitely know how to act like a good girl. If i dont want you to be my husband, i will show up as a whore
Only sluts try to justify their behavior by calling other people sluts or trying to shame them instead of taking responsibility for what they’re doing. It’s your way of coping w what the truth is. The truth is you rejected a lot of men because those aren’t the men you want t. But it’s also true that the men you want don’t want you. Otherwise you’d be w someone now if that ideal man walked up to you and asked you out. So don’t say it’s by choice.
@opinionowner
Lets face it... there is no way you would know a womans body count unless she tells you
No woman will ever tell you she has high body count. But plenty of us DO sleep around. It happens A LOT.
You could have gone on a date with me. And you wouldn't know I do casual sex
Haha
So dont go on and say no man wants me
Cuz men can't differentiate a slut from a non slut
lol keep coping. You’re almost 30, no man. Your time is almost up. As a woman at your age it’s a red flag, especially if you’ve never been married or have kids.
@opinionowner
Haha
you're 45, you already hit the hall
I dont date guys over 37. Men over 40 are too old wrinkly pruny and dicks dont work
I live in NYC, over here, its common for people to stay single into their 30s and 40s
Plus I've had lotta guys fall in love with me in the past. I just never liked them back.
lol that’s why you’re still single. Like I said the men you want, don’t want you. A man may not know a woman’s exact body count but they can get an idea of what you’re like by your behavior.
lol again like I said the men who like you aren’t the ones you like. The ones you like don’t like you. You just proved my point. I don’t need to be worried about meeting someone, have been w someone for 20 years. Tell me this when you’re still single at 35. Just another cope by trying to include everyone else you supposedly say is single in their 30s to 40s.
@opinionowner
Im actually an incredibly nice girl which was why I've had so many men love me in the past. Im not hard to love. I've even had 1 amazing man want to marry me when I was 23 but I rejected him because he was too short
And no, there is no way you can spot a slut unless she deliberately tells you. You saying you can tell is just your lame desperate attempt at controlling women.
@opinionowner
Men that I want, pretty much do not exist. I have NEVER been in love my entire life
lol again you keep throwing out I’ve had all these men who like me. So what. That’s not something to brag about if you didn’t marry one of them. The men you want do exist, you’re just not on their level. Like most women you have a delusional mentality of what you think your level is. The men who are approaching you, the swarm of men as you say are more than likely the level you should be at. Ok well it was fun talking. I wish you the best.
@opinionowner
You act like you know my level
I have dated tall guys over 6 feet and also short guys as 5'4"
Dont tell me I have never dated an attractive man because I have
How ignorant are you? To act like you know a complete stranger online?
He should have offered to show up in a uniform with cuffs.
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I worked as a firefighter that would turn me off to disrespect a man like that wtf he's not some loser of course he got mad common sense im not even joking im an actual firefighter i dont risk my life for women like you liability
Maybe he went out on an emergency call. Maybe I’m just saying.🤷🏽♂️
You made yourself look very whore-ish, put simply. Just because he had a thing going with you doesn’t mean he wants to be sharing that
experience with his cop friends. Too close to home.
i just felt unfulfilled with him. he was very emotionally unavailable. that is why i am looking for someone else.
I get all that, but to not only mention this during sex but to ask for a person directly connected to him just made you look bad/cheap. You should pursue other men on your accord it’s as if you were trying to low-blow him in the process or something I don't know. It just was a bad look I wish you didn’t do that.
@hello4433 thanks
@opinionowner
What do you mean cheap? We live in a society where everyone has casual sex, does friends with benefits, including him. By definition, he is cheap as well since he also does casual sex.
Especially when he isn't fulfulling me at all and doesn't prioritize me, doesn't make me feel valued then why can't I date other guys?
Im sick of his low effort texts. I feel like im talking to myself when I text him. I have no incentive to stay
Its so ridiculous that so many women need to hide the fact we do casual sex. As if we need to go undercover, wear a mask and hide the fact we do fwbs. Meanwhile men BRAG about doing the same exact thing. Then society congratulates him for having sex with so many women.
Who says you can’t be sexual? I’m not referring to your promiscuity at all, your friends with benefits situation with him is not what I’m speaking on. I’m talking about the fact that during sex, you asked him to hook you up with one of his friends. That has nothing to do with social standards, how he treats you or whatever else you were just monologging about. Your choice in that bed cheapened you, not the friends with benefits or casual sex. You can absolutely date other guys, they just don’t have to be his friends.
You are 100% valid for everything you’re feeling towards him and he probably warranted all that, so move on as you have been trying to do. Just not with his friends, and asking for him to hook you up with them while you were simultaneously in bed with him was a bad move.
@opinionowner
I know. But I only asked because I specifically only wanted a cop or fireman. And I have absolutely no way of finding one.
I’m not trying to give you shit we all have our preferences but girl, that’s such a superficial and unnecessary desire to have a cop or fireman. Such a need vs want, non-priority, you did not have to ask the man you’re sleeping with and during the deed at that. Especially when it’s one of his friends, it’s like strike strike strike.
@opinionowner
No its not superficial at all. Its called having a preference. Its crazy how human beings are villanized for the most benign things. We all have different preferences when it comes to looks, height, weight. Its only natural that we have them. If its not wrong for a man to approach a pretty girl, then why would it be "wrong" for me to want a man in uniform? Where does this sexist discrimination come from?
Women get penalized for things that men can get off with scott free
I knew one of his sisters was a well known detective. I was hoping he could get her to hook me up with someone. He doesn't personally know a lot of cops.
I dont feel bad for asking him this. Because all throughout the entire time, he just seemed incredibly low effort, didn't value our time together, had no respect for my time, didn't bother to even shower before he met me
I dont feel bad
Needs vs wants is what I am plainly, very simply talking about. You want a cop, you want a fireman. Cool. You do not NEED either of those, certainly not to the extent that you ask the man you’re currently in bed with and for his friends/family at that. Idc how crazy you think what is, there should be limits and standards as a woman.
Just say you have none.
@opinionowner
Standards do not matter when it comes to obtaining what you want in life
I need to be ruthless and determind in gearing what I want. I can't sit back and spend my entire life worrying about what he thinks or what you think
This is my last resort. Its not like I enjoy doing this type of stuff. But I literally have no other way of meeting a firemen or a cop
@opinionowner
Life is short. I dont have until I am 60 years old to find myself a handsome young cop. I need to do what I gotta do in order to get what I want. If I sit back and worry my ass off about what you or him think, I will just die without accomplishing anything
I’m sorry but this is probably the most troubling take on dating that I’ve ever heard from a woman in my entire life. Who hurt you? And why didn’t you take time to heal? Standards are everything honey, and lack-of is why you have always wound up single. It’s why you’re used for casual sex or ghosted, it’s why you are where you are now. No married woman I know, including myself, would agree that your idea of ruthless is what’s going to land you a good relationship with someone that you want. I may be blunt, but I’m honest and you clearly have not received enough truths. You say you don’t care about this, that and the third… ok so why are you here? Why do you care whether we think you’re an asshole or not? I mean I’m basically here affirming that yes, it was asshole behavior in the form of whoreish-ness and you are having a hard time receiving this information. You did what you thought you had to do to get a cop and disrespected yourself in the process, which you don’t have to agree with but that just shows a real lack of emotional maturity.
@opinionowner
You can't make random assumptions about people you know nothing about
Im actually an incredibly nice girl which was why I've had so many men love me in the past. Im not hard to love. I've even had 1 amazing man want to marry me when I was 23 but I rejected him because he was too short
@opinionowner
I am 29 and have never been in love. Men that I like simply do not exist
No I dont get rejected way too much. I just never meet men that I am actually interested in. Im usually doing 90% of the rejecting
I dont feel like I had disrespected myself. Because the vast majority of people sleep around anyways. Him included. You can't look down on sleeping around, if you love doing it yourself.
Ok well I’m done going back and forth. Have a good one.
@OpinionOwner wanna chat?
As much as you like to look down on promiscuity, you'd be surprised at the amount of men in large modern cities who actually do not look down on promiscuous women. I have met plenty of men who didn't care about a womans sexual history.
And usually those who slut shame are from 2 categories: the man whores or the catholic white prudes.
You will rarely ever find anyone else who slut shames.
This is just a pointless conversation. I’ve said what I said, and if you didn’t want the feedback genuinely then you should not have asked. I’m not interested in going back and forth all night.
@opinionowner
Learn something new and be receptive to new information instead of insisting you know everything and that you're always correct
Its 2025 not 1965.
Casual sex is not uncommon. Most people do it.
Girl, what in the actual fuck is your problem? Why are you trying to insist on continuing this conversation or insisting that I have some sort of issue with casual sex/promiscuity when I have said more than once that wasn’t what I was talking about? In fact I was incredibly straightforward with what I WAS talking about: you asking the guy you’re in the middle of sex with if he has any friends available for you to date.
Please explain what that has to do with “always being correct”? Or it being 2025 and not 1965? What does that have to do with slut shaming or any of this other shit your monologging about?
I don't know how many men in large modern cities you’re fucking in order to gain this first-hand knowledge of their opinions but my personal experience says otherwise and you will not be snatching that experience from me or any other woman so that your narrative can shine.
Majority of the men I have ever known in my life will absolutely sleep with a promiscuous woman and hell no they aren’t judging her because why would they? What man is complaining about a woman who will screw him with no issues? Who presents themselves as having standards low enough that they don’t need to wine&dine this sort of woman, she’s totally fine with skipping all that and straight to the casual arrangement of sex, maybe check in on occasion to see if the other person is alive and then go about their lives. Those women require zero work and are easily achieved, what man wouldn’t support that? You women are good for what you are good for, just like the man who is very clearly fine with being used too.
Most men are not putting a ring on that woman’s finger in any case. They have no real fundamental respect for the woman who is so easily used and obtained. You can argue this all you want but you have actual validation of this from two men in these comments alone.
You are the one who’s closed minded because you don’t want to take any accountability. You deflect and deflect with your ranting and raving about what you perceive the modern woman to be and making us all look fucking bad in the process. Like please don’t rope me into your beliefs on casual sex and promiscuity I’m married, and prior to that I dated a lot more smart and intentional than you are. I would’ve never laid under a man in bed and during our most intimate peak of the sex I say “hey do you think you can set me up with one of your cop or firefighter friends?” Like huh?
@opinionowner
You just seem like you're filled with bias and hatred for promiscuity
So much bias and hatred that
You refused to read the reasons why I was completely dissatisfied with him and wanted someone else
Maybe if you were more kind, respectful and considerate toward me, you would know what I asked him to recommend me a cop or firemen.
Your lack of consideration is so obvious. You aren't even reading anything I am writing
Plus, I have never had a hard time getting a man to like me. Dont just rush to random assumptions. I know you're biased and want to discriminate against me. But I am a very nice girl and I've had plenty of men fall in love with me in the past. I, myself, have never been in love tho. I just haven't found anyone I truly wanted yet. And time is running out for me, Im not getting any younger
Even though we may not agree on the same views, show some respect and consideration.
Be receptive to new information and the fact that people in large modern cities dont care as much about a womans body count as folks in your tiny town
Okay, let’s just be super straightforward because you are clearly misconstruing what’s being said.
Did you ask this man if he has any cop or firefighter friends while in the middle of sex, yes or no? Save the monologging — yes or no?
**any cop or firefighter friends that he can hook you up with
It wasn't during the middle of sex. It was through text after I just felt bad every day that we texted since he wouldn't reply to my texts on a timely manner. During the beginning of this friends with benefits relationship, he would reply back quickly and put effort into this texts. Over the past few weeks, I felt like he's bare minimum, low effort. I even thought he could just be faking that he cares about me just so that I won't leave him.
We had sex once. Prior to sex, we cuddled for several weeks. I got super attached to him after the first time we cuddled. He claimed to be attached to me too. We texted everyday but over time, i just felt like he is lying and isn't actually attached to me. When i text him, i get a strong gut feeling he doesn't want to talk to me. He never showers before we meet even though he is sweaty from working out. He puts a time limit to our cuddle sessions. He even canceled last minute last time.
I just feel like he is just lying and being fake toward me just so he can continue enjoying the sex I am providing him. I dont truly believe he even wants to cuddle.
I have been thinking about blocking him. But I thought I might as well ask him to recommend a cop/fireman before I drop him, for good
Thanks for putting the answer right at the beginning because that’s all i asked for and I’m not reading the rest. I have no interest.
Thanks as well for clarifying that this “I asked a guy I was having very emotionally intimate sex with, about where I could meet firemen and cops.” Did not mean you were in the middle of sex, because that’s one of the driving factors of my opinion which I will now negate.
In any case, I’m am still very simply talking about the fact that you asked the guy you’re sleeping with if he had any cop or firefighter friends available for you.
I truly do not care to hear the extras, it just wasn’t a good choice. If you think it was then I don't know why you care whether or not we agree with that.
To be very, crystal clear — I AM NOT HATING ON YOUR PROMISCUITY. It is actually really fucking annoying that you keep on insisting that I am saying anything else.
I don’t care that you’re promiscuous, I am not hating on that or biased to that.
Yes, I read about how dissatisfied you were with him, it just wasn’t what I was talking about.
You are going so hard defending yourself as if I am attacking you with my opinion, I’ve said nothing harmful. It just hurts your feelings because I am blunt about what position you put yourself in with that behavior but it is what it is.
@opinionowner
You can't provide an objective answer if you're not willing to understand my point of view
You're even refusing to read what I am writing, this itself shows a lot.
That you do love hating on me
@opinionowner
What you said doesn't hurt my feelings. Because your view point is PURELY biased. You're only looking at it from his point of view and not mine
Honestly you're not here to provide a good answer. You're just here to slut shame and bully
I provided an objective answer to the context given in the post. If you wanted me to take everything you previously responded with into consideration before forming an opinion then you should’ve done that in the beginning. It is not my job to learn the entire backstory of you and him. It’s not my job to learn your views on dating. It’s not my job to go back and forth with you about what I think of women being promiscuous or not. All these emotional side quest topics you keep throwing into the mix should’ve all been laid out from the jump. Then I could’ve decided whether or not I wanted to engage with all that.
Save your expectations of “bias” working completely in your favor for your friends and the people who love you. You came to a platform asking for the opinions of strangers on something that you seem very assured on. Like did you want us all to come stroke your hair and agree or what?
@opinionowner
If you're unwilling to consider both sides point of view, you have no right to claim your opinion is objective.
You're just a bully.
So crazy that I’m literally commenting on the context given in your post and you’re mad and calling me a hater for not wanting to talk about every aspect of your relationship with him or your views on dating. I didn’t ask to talk about all that and if that’s what you wanted then you should’ve added that in the original post. You are the bully for trying to strong arm me into ongoing conversion.
If I’m a bully for answering your “am I an asshole” question with “yes your an asshole” makes me a bully then I don’t fucking care lmao you’re emotional and a whore. Guess we both can get name called.
I’m done talking to you❤️
Do you suck this bad with rejection in general or is it just with me? Lol I don’t wanna talk to you! Stop trying to force me you big fucking bully. It’s weird.
@opinionowner
Maybe if you were nicer to me, I would be nicer to you. Now you're all disturbed and trying to run away. Other people mirrior who you are, back to you
I don’t have to be nice to tell you my opinion! I am blunt and you are emotional, just like a said. I’m a stranger it’s not my job to protect your feelings. Try growing up.
I don’t want talk to you! That’s not running away that’s flat out disinterest! Fuck sake it’s embarrassing to take rejection this hard like you don’t wanna let me go it’s weird. Are you attached or something?
@opinionowner
You're just a pathetic immature bully who is just too immature to walk away
@opinionowner
Im not hurt by you at all. Because your comments are purely biased. What makes you think I take your comments seriously?
Im just calling you out that you are nothing more than just an immature bully, thats all
And it sounds like this is something you absolutely cannot accept
Dry your eyes and shut your mouth😘
@opinionowner
Dry my eyes for what?
Im not even taking u seriously
You have no idea how much of a fool you look like
Please you know all about looking foolish😂💀
@opinion owner
making mocking statements about other people, doesn't necessarily make them true.
try harder.
I don't think I am foolish, along with many other people. Its never been a problem to my dating
With that logic you should shut your nonsensical mouth about me☺️ you are foolish. And discarded.
@opinionowner
I will tell you the real truth
a womans body count will never affect her dating.
I can go on a dating app, go on a first date with a guy, tell him I have only slept with 1 person my entire life and he would believe me.
He won't know I do fwbs and casual sex.
this is why a woman's body count will never ever affect her dating.
nobody will know a woman's true body count unless she is willing to open her mouth about it.
Tell yourself whatever you want lol
Who’s asking about your body count anyway?
@opinionowner
you can ask and i can lie.
i can tell you whatever i want.
I didn’t ask you though so why are you going on about that? You are bringing up the most random shit just stop already.
@opinionowner
just telling u the truth. I don't know why you are arguing with it.
Because I didn’t ask you so stop talking to me.
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