How to deal with attraction toward boss?

[Anonymous]

I was hired by a doctor who is also a trained masseuse. He is tall, well over 6ft, super fit, young, cute... muscular, healthy and nice and... I totally am listing after him. Surprisingly he works along with many other of his female employees and they never seem to hit on him. He is currently training and does massages on me. I try to stop letting my mind veer into dirty thoughts. But it's hard. I don't know how any woman can work around him so closely but not hit on him

[Twalli]

Accept it and don't make any moves to get him to want you romantically or sexually. Also, if he's really all that, why do you think another girl hasn't already gotten him? What makes you think he's single? It's possible all the women he works with knows he's off the market, so they don't try. One sentence from me and girls don't try (unless they're not the type I'd want to date, because if their idea to start a good relationship is to break up an old one, they're not the type you should date).

[Asker]

He gives off single vibes by the way

[Twalli]

Inconsequential.

[Anonymous]

You mentioned other employees don't hit on him. This is a huge clue. It suggests he likely maintains very firm professional boundaries or has made it clear that he isn't interested in mixing business with pleasure. Following their lead isn't just about behaving; it’s about protecting your career reputation in a specialized field.

He likely views his female employees and your training sessions through a strictly clinical lens. Reminding yourself that his niceness and touch are professional tools not personal signals can help create a mental barrier.

Acknowledge the crush, but don't feed it. Avoid looking at his social media or daydreaming about a what if scenario.

Good luck.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If he single then try to date him since you seriously like him.

If he is married then leave him alone or go find another job.

[Asker]

Wouldn't say I like him. Just lusting

[Mastergirl]

Don't, try to seduce him

[Jeff51]

Id say don't. at least not your boss.

[Anonymous]

Quit

[Hopeless30]

Go for it honey...