You think this girl is just using me?

[Anonymous]

So there is this girl. Hung out with her a few times.

Now the thing is there is a part of me that feels like something I did hurt her ego the way she keeps trying to claw back at me (sublty).

But there is another part of me that notices she rarely asks about me, she talks about herself and 80% of what she talks about are guys and her dating experiences.

I'm wondering at this point if I should be offended.

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2 mo

I meant like I am being used as her therapist

I’m a woman by the way.

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2 mo

Like she just needs someone to vent to

[slatyb]

The only thing that matters is whether you are getting out of this relationship. It sounds like it's very little. That's the only reason you need to stop seeing her. Just tell her the same thing you would tell a guy you no longer want to see "I'm sorry, Karen, but I don't think we work well together."

[Asker]

See I don't believe relationships should be entirely transactional.

It's not a business exchange it's a friendship.

But what I am concerned about is I don't even think she looks at it as a friendship I think it's just a sounding board for her.

[slatyb]

I also don´t believe relationships should be transactional but we need a reason to continue seeing someone. That reason could be a long-standing friendship, but it doesn´t seem like that´s the case.

[Sunshinelips]

Whoops. You posted this on your wrong account, male. How embarrassing
No real woman would ask this question.


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[Asker]

I’m 100% a woman

[RachyRach]

Some people don't realize that all they talk about is themselves. But don't hang out with her if you're not enjoying it.

[Asker]

I don't know I'm starting to think she uses me as a sounding board

[RachyRach]

If you're feeling used why still hangout with her?

[Asker]

I haven't I'm distant from her for the past couple of days but I'm wondering what that was about like does she think lowly of me or something

[RachyRach]

Who cares what she thinks? You know your own value

[Asker]

It’s offensive

[RachyRach]

So cut her off completely then you won't be offended by her

[Nikki1989]

Sure you are a woman. This has 'dude' written all over it.

[Asker]

I am a woman!!! I am annoyed that she thinks she can use me as a therapist.

Also the reason I mentioned the guys she's dating is because that is her favourite topic. At firs ti felt bad empathetic towards her

But now I feel like she just needs someone to vent to because of her bad experiences and doesn't really care about actually building a friendship

[Anonymous]

Why do you like hanging out with her?

Are you the same girl who was complaining that she didn’t repost a pic you took or something? The age seems right and you both use the word “offended” a lot.

[Anonymous]

No. Some people just are like that where they keep talking about themselves. They’reblike that with everyone and often not even aware they’re doing it.

[Pretendingtobesweet]

Yes.

[Asker]

Why? If she doesn't like me why hang out with me

[Pretendingtobesweet]

She likes to wasting your time

[Asker]

Why?

[Pretendingtobesweet]

We are all evil

[Asker]

Do you think she thinks lowly of me

[Pretendingtobesweet]

She thinks that you are naive?

[Asker]

Yeah or someone who is somehow below her in terms of why does she think it’s okay to use me as a sounding board like that

[Pretendingtobesweet]

Yes she probably thinks that you are pretentious

[Asker]

That’s her problem and her insecurities

[Pretendingtobesweet]

Men like to see women’s slutty side. Maybe she thinks she know better than you do

[Asker]

I’m a woman

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Eat her out