How do I find closure when a girl may not have been honest with me?

[Anonymous]

had been friends with this girl , mainly see her at her work ( a store ) but also saw her at other places in our home area. at the end of summer i was under the impression she was leaving or taking a break from her job and going to school. but when i talked to her she said she wasn't doing that. however the last time i saw her was Thursday before labour day weekend and she doesn't seem to be at that store anymore

so now left thinking she was not honest with me for some unknown reason and not able to find closure , at least if i knew she was somewhere else doing school i would not have to worry about seeing her in our home area or at that store. and it be easier to put this to rest but now i'm left clueless and without any answers.

its also possible she found another job or went on a trip somewhere would explain her absense , i haven't asked anyone there about her , they were mostly annoyed i went in there so much to see her

[MysticDevice]

Find closure in the fact that you probably won't get closure. You may have really liked her but it just wasn't meant to be. Sorry bud but time to move along.

[Asker]

i would of felt better knowing she was at school , at least then she's doing something with her life and i don't have to worry about seeing her locally for the time being , would agree there is not a path forward at his time to try and advance our friendship , not knowing just creates this void of uncertaintly and no closure as to why she did this

[Mariogirl09]

You have to realize she's rejecting you. You have to learn to take no AND distance as a SIGN of NOT being interested

[Asker]

she had plenty of chances to speak to me openly and honestly which is why i found it odd she'd do this instead of just telling me something that would of at least made sense and provided some closure

at this point i don't even know if she still works there or even in this area or what she did. but i would agree that her actions the last couple times i saw her there do not seem to indicate an interest in continuing our friendship for the time being , at least not a true friendship ,

[Mariogirl09]

Yea she doesn't have to speak to you either if she doesn't want to

[Asker]

but i was rate there in front of her , if she had something to say she really should of , i suppose if she does not reappear at store soon it at least provide some answer that she is not there anymore

[Mariogirl09]

Man leave this girl alone

[Asker]

i haven't seen or heard anything from her in 2 weeks , sep 3rd would of been last day i actually physically saw her in this area , she was at work but working cash ( kind of odd as usually she'd be on floor doing stuff ) she acted kind of awkward when she saw me about to walk in store but when i came to cash we talked and it seemed ok but i haven't seen her since

[Mariogirl09]

Don't talk to her. Keep it moving. she's not interested. You have to stop this

[Asker]

i haven't seen her in 2 weeks , i'm suspicious she's somewhere else as labour day weekend typically a big exodus weekend here a lot of staff and younger people its there last weekend of work before they go somewhere else or return to school

i don't see what harm would of came from her simply telling me she was going to school or going on a trip, but for some reason she did this , i agree maybe it was her way of trying to distance herself from me without cause trouble or a scene at her work

[Anonymous]

Move on and then just be surprised if you see her again. Assume you won’t.

[Asker]

though about the move on aspect a lot , think most people would simply move on if someone did something like this to them.

i don't know what her level of attachment to that job was or not , know years ago i worked one summer in a grocery store hated the manager and never even went back in the store but it was in a another town so never shopped there to begin with.

[In_Trance]

Closure is overrated. Move on

[Asker]

i suppose but it at least provide some relief if i knew for certain she was somewhere else , being that were from a smaller city i could go about with less worry about seeing her somewhere and knowing she was doing something with her life like going to school would make me feel better