Apparently I'm marriage material, but not dating material?

[roxygirlskier]

My guy friend told me I'm marriage material, but not dating material... what does that mean?

[Tmendlin]

See it as a compliment! Some people just seem that way to me too, and I'd MUCH rather marry them than marry a guy who just seems like "dating material". The people who are just dating material always seem so restless and finnicky, so thus, they wouldn't exactly be the best companion in marriage- they might even be looking for someone else while you're married to them, because they need change. They don't take commitments seriously enough. You can definitely still have fun while dating- but your form of dating is probably more innocent, and the guy knows that. Dating to you may just be getting to know each other- not spending hours flirting with each other or talking dirty like many other girls. If this guy enters into a relationship with you, he'd know that marriage wouldn't be far down the line if all goes well, so he may not want to start down that road yet, because he isn't ready. I definitely don't think it means that this guy friend doesn't care about you. And trust me, I'm pretty sure I'm "marriage material" too, so sometimes it can be really lonely, because it seems like not many guys are ready to date a girl who is. But honestly, would you really want to date a guy who dates just to date- a guy who checks you off his list? Or a guy who spends his time on your date thinking about other girls he has dated? And chances are, you may start to really like him, but he may just be thinking of you as just another date. I know it's hard, but wait for the right guy- a guy who will actually take your relationship seriously, instead of just breaking your heart and moving on. He will truly care about you, and you won't have the many regrets of having your heart divided between him and past guys who have broken your heart- your heart will be solely for him.

[roxygirlskier]

Aw thanks! That was very well said! :) I definitely agree though, I think that's probably what he meant.

[katherinefairchild]

I agree with randomguy949. I think it means you're mature and are ready for a serious long-term committment. Guys looking for a girl who's only dating, are looking for hook ups or parties or just a good time. Guys looking for a girl who's looking for a relationship, are more mature, ready to settle down and want to find that one girl they want to be with forever. I think your friend phrased it a tad weird but I wouldn't worry about it. Take it as a compliment (:

[roxygirlskier]

haha okay... I guess I will. it was coming from a friend that I wanted to date at the time so it was a little confusing/frustrating

[katherinefairchild]

Ohhh...was that like...his way of rejecting you? If so, it could mean something completely different.

[roxygirlskier]

haha I think I might have been? although idk

[katherinefairchild]

Mmm if it was I think it was almost reverse psychology. Kind of like the famous "It's not you it's me" type thing. He could've just been saying he doesn't wanna date you and thought it was clear because he said you're not dating material. Typical guy that he can't just come out and say what he means. But that if it was a rejection. I'd have to know more to give you a definitive answer.

[oranges123]

In my opinion he may be saying you're more of a long term commitment kind of girl than a date a couple guys kind of girl. With dating there is a little commitment but not a ton since you can date others while your dating someone else. Since you're not boyfriend and girlfriend. But with marriage obviously you're committed to each other for the long haul. :)

[roxygirlskier]

hahaha yeah.

[ryanrhino]

It means that you are ready for a serious relationship, while the person who told you this is not ready to settle down.

As I am a divorced guy who married his best friend, I would say that I am a baby in dating, but an expert at being a husband. A hard position to be in when I'm dating! Heh!

Either through your friends description or mine, it means that you and I are each ready for a life-long love.

Much success to you, as this guy friend is totally missing out on your awesomeness! (He is not a guy by the way, but a boy).

[roxygirlskier]

Ugh yeah, he likes me, then he doesn't? I've TRIED to move on... told him we couldn't be friends anymore.. .and sure enough he came running back with all the I love you/want you in my life speech... of course none of the actions. I reallly can't get away from him. I tried to block him out, he came running back. I don't know if I should trust him or not! He is definitely boy, not a man.

I think I might be a baby in dating too haha. How does one just date to date? I met a nice guy, but there was 0 spark

[ryanrhino]

Date just to meet people one on one. Consider some dates to just be training to get better at dating. There are few of us that are naturals at it.

And, for the fortunate ones (I consider myself here), we find partners super fast or they find us.

The main thing to remember is that you don't NEED a partner, but that they enhance your life. If you are found wanting, you won't attract your mate.

[randomguy949]

It means you're mature enough to be in a serious relationship and not just date for thrills. I see it as a compliment, if you're college age or older this becomes a much more valued and important trait. Some people never mature enough to be marriage material.

[roxygirlskier]

huh well I guess I will take it as a compliment lol. I'm about to be done with college! crazy

[Drake742]

think about if you had said this to a guy, he'd make a great husband/provider for when it's time to settle down, but for now, he just doesn't bring that tension/excitement she's looking for.

[Anonymous]

That guys at your age just want a girl for sex and something casual. you are more mature and not the type guys want to date now. You aren't the "fun" type right now, but don't worry, it means a more mature guy will appreciate you.

[roxygirlskier]

aw that's good. I just need to find one of them

[Opinion Owner]

Don't worry I'm in the same boat. I'm in college and most guys here just want to hook up.

[roxygirlskier]

haha yeah, so lame... it used to be fun, but now it's not lol

[styles_clash]

Guys her age? I'm 22 and I don't just want a girl for sex...I think you mean girls typically my age don't want anything more than "just sex"

[SweetApathy]

Means that he would think you were better for someone who wanted a long term relationship, not a short term fling.

[roxygirlskier]

hmm yeah that makes sense lol

[ciriouslyy]

haha hmmm. I think it means that your the special kind! like your different than just a typical person he'd date. I think he likes you hahaha. XD

[Anonymous]

you're long term material and he's not ready for that. he just wants to fool around and have fun

[MrReal]

You would be a great wife/mother but you're a bad person to get along (have fun) with. Please also note that I don't know you so this is probably incorrect.

[Kangajay]

It's funny how people can tell such a thing. How are we supposed to get married if we don't date. Hmm...

[MakingaRuckus]

Could be a compliment:)

Like your too good to be just dating you should be married instead.

[roxygirlskier]

haha hmm that's good I guess... maybe?

[Anonymous]

Serious and decent but not naughty and fun?

[roxygirlskier]

hahaha maybe that is it... is that so bad? I am kind of wild with people who I really like! but they have to like me first ha

[Opinion Owner]

It's not bad. It means he didn't get to know you yet ;-)

[roxygirlskier]

haha maybe one day it will happen

[whydogirlsmesswithme]

Oh man, I have been told the same thing

[Anonymous]

It means that according to him you are not a slut.

[Anonymous]

It means you have some work to do sexually.

[roxygirlskier]

hahaha but this guy has never even dated me! he wouldn't know... haha

[Opinion Owner]

Ah. In that case you just don't come off as having a ton of sexual energy. Even though you may have it. Just be aware of it. It's not a bad thing most of the time, but sometimes you want to be able to effectively throw of a sexy vibe that gets guys bodies to react regardless of what their minds are thinking.

[roxygirlskier]

haha OK. huh. well this is also coming from a guy who said he "wanted me" but didn't want to date me. so idk, very confusing business here haha

[Opinion Owner]

Well in that case, he really wants to do you but doesn't feel like you share the sentiment.

[roxygirlskier]

hahaha that would be pretty accurate. not that kind of girl...

[Opinion Owner]

LOL! Bummer for him I suppose. Usually that just means you're not into him. For the right guy you'd probably be EXACTLY that kind of girl. Nothing wrong with it BTW.

[roxygirlskier]

oh, but the funny thing is, I really was into him... I just didn't think he liked me for me! I thought he was just using me ha so I didn't want anything to happen unless we dated