How to deal with players? Especially if you'll were seeing each other and got dumped?

[Anonymous]

this guy is a player I dated. he showed me he loved me, and asked me out. after a lot of convincing I actually fell for him, as he was way too sweet. he even took me home to his parents thrice for meals. one month, into the relation, he called it quits for no reason, and the more I got to know about him, the more I realized he is a womanizer and might have played many such girls. we did get a little physical, and that makes me wonder whether that's all he wanted. I really loved him, and am completely clueless on how to react. I want him to be hurt the way I was. I am not completely sure whether he is a womanizer, but this behavior of his made me believe likewise. I somehow can't get him out of my mind and want him back. I want him to fall for me all over again. I want to know how it feels to not get the one you like.

[Eiffelgirl21]

Here is the thing-

He never fell for you. Ever. He only wanted to use you..Somewhere down the road he could have been a nice man..but, maybe a girl played him? He didn't like it. So, now he just looks at women like cheating whores who don't want to settle down either. Somewhere down the road, he got hurt..some way..and, now he is taking it out on all women. OR, he could just be born that way.

Either way, he is a jerk. And, trying to make him feel bad will only back fire. He will know he got to you, then feel empowered even more and will boost his ego more.

You want to get him back? Show him you don't care. You have moved on. He didn't affect you. He was just another prick in the rose. And, you are confident, secure, and know you are sexy. Just brush the dirt off your shoulders when you walk by him. On purpose. So, he knows. Who is REALLY better.

And, next time, be more careful about who you get involved with. I am not putting you down..More like looking out for you. It has happened to me, too. Sadly. =/

[Eiffelgirl21]

P.S- the only reason why you cannot get him out of your head, is because you want what you cannot have. trust me..it is universal..everyone wants something that they cannot have. Would you want to be with him, really? Not ever being able to trust him? I wouldn't. Realize, he played you, and you don't want someone who does not care about your feelings!

[bigbang654]

well, first of all, he is subjected by getting f***ed by some loonatic gay guys in the future. So you won't worry about that. And, second of all, you are attracted by him because you are shy about your femininity or hiding it. He saw that you are not coming out or suspected that you have in there but not showing it, so he tried but then he got tired so easily. He is not that type of guy who could be patient. He is like you said just player and easy going and get it over with which in turn he is not suitable for any type of job either. So, he was playing to see if you could play back but you weren't willing to, so he moved on. If you like to develop social skills, then go mingle up with people at bar or something. I think there are guys who accept because they went through girls who are bad or good. But you want to play before you settle down. That's causing you the trouble.

[Hades]

Cut your losses and move on. Or continue thinking with your vagina and head back onto the battlefield, vainly attempting to force him to love you, commit and cease chasing other women. I wish you luck, either way.

[Anonymous]

lol...tryin to make a romance novel alive here ?

MOVE ON...there's no way he is gonna change..

if you stay and try to change him,u'll hurt yourself even more..

start hunting for those nice guys out there...

P.S.advice frm a former player himself