Do guys seem to be more attracted to outspoken/loud girls or mature and sweet girls more?

[Jojoballoo]

I was just wondering this because it seems like guys like girls that act very outgoing and crazy more than girls who are just genuinely sweet and kind, I'm not a shy person and I express myself freely and I'm not awkward, but I just never seem important compared to girls that are just screaming for attention. Am not like unattractive looking and am skinnier than a lot of the attention whore girls, I'm just not a crazy person and thought it was rather strange that guys mostly won't acknowledge a girl who isn't yelling the whole time your around them. Is there some sort of secret language for yelling and getting guys to find you more attractive or something?! Hahaha I just thought it was kind of ridiculous. Any opinions?

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Depends on personality.

I don't scream all the time, but I am loud because the guys I hang with - our humor clicks so well so often I'll end up laughing real loud, or talking over them for par of the joke.

I was sometimes put with that group of attention whore girls simply because of the people I hang with - people always thought I had a boyfriend because of all the guys I hang with, and assumed me to be " one of those girls," - the one's who are instantly negatized because we're a tad more outgoing than normal -_-

My point here - don't be so quick to write those girls off as being this or that.

She could be loud and a bit of an attention whore - but sweet and mature as well.

Also - some people's personalities are just universally more attractive than others; sometimes to their same sex, sometimes to the opposite gender, or sometimes to both.

I noticed this a lot in school - as I got along with so many different types of people. Often I got the " wow your actually really this or that," because people realized I wasn't the attention whore with a loud mouth and no personality underneath it all.

Don't stress about it too much - I've seen plenty of quiet type girls who are sweet and such, get boyfriends.

It all boils down to just clicking with that certain personality in that certain guy which happens at random times for everyone.

[hunibee]

I think it is just your age group. They will grow out of it. Ideally I think men like confident, moral, sweet and kind woman. What's important is that you like yourself. When you like yourself and enjoy yourself people men and woman are just attracted to you. Don't worry about the guys. Just enjoy yourself and don't hate...

[Anonymous]

You too young to be thinking bout gui right now. You go to scool studie hard get good grade. you be big sucess. no bois!

[markml]

Those guys you're talking about probably have short attention spans, and you probably wouldn't be that interested in them after a while because they're not your type.

How's that saying go..."Birds of a feather flock together"

Be confident in who you are, and that will attract guys who see what you have to offer.

Also, you might be over estimating how much attention these loud obnoxious girls get. Some guys will hang around them just because they're amusing, not because they are strongly attracted to them.

Everyone your age is self-conscious on some level, and it's easier going with the flow than going against it. You might be admired by a number of guys who are just afraid to show it.

[Alonzo]

I tend to go for the shy and sweet type. Outgoing girls are great too, but not the loud ones. I dislike loud people in general. But more importantly is going after girls who are true to themselves. Girls that are comfortable with who they are.

Some guys will migrate towards the overly loud girl at the party, while others will notice the reserved girl over in the corner talking with her friends. I'd be the latter.

[Anonymous]

All I can say is that I'm not attracted to acts. I'm fine with either personality if it's the real thing. Of course, if the personality happens to be overbearing, childish, unfair, etc, then there's nothing there, either. Overall, though, I believe that these days a "sweet girl" is a complete act and tend to be suspicious of it. They're only sweet until they get comfortable with you.

[TurbulentDan12]

I personally go for the "sweet and kind" type more. I'm sort of shy myself, so my personality doesn't mesh well with loud and outspoken girls.