What do I do if I regret my first kiss?

[Anonymous]

Well I met this guy when I was overseas and I kissed him after knowing him for only two days. Actually I let him go to second base. To be honest I didn't really like the guy or anything, I just liked the fact that he gave me some sort of attention. The few months before the kiss I was actually having very low self esteem issues due to rapid gain weight. On top of that I meet him during a family reunion, a gurgling 2 weeks where everyone's first few comments consisted of how I have grown 'bigger' and need a nose job to look even remotely pretty. I know this sounds like excuses, but I really don't know how to get over this kiss. I mean this happened when I was 15, it has been one and a half years. But I'm kinda just stuck thinking about it and examining everything he said and how bad he treated me. I mean he called me a slut! I just really don't know how to move on. I always think about how much I regret it. So my question is how do I get over this kiss and does this make me a slut?

[AlessandraRossa]

this didn't make you a slut of course, why are you so much worried about this kiss? you could tell about it your grandchildren in future. Don't regret this what happened , it was only kiss , do you think that everyone has amazing first kiss? my first kiss was with boy who I met this day .. it was on holidays and I even didn't understand his language , I did regret it too. Everything happen for a reason , so don't worry about it . And how is your weight now? why did you have problems with it?

[Asker]

Thank you for that comment, I always worry the slut part. Ummm, I have actually gained a lot more weight since then, 10kg to be exact. It is actually my final year of high school, so I'm not actually getting to much exercise. But please don't worry my weight gain isn't too drastic, I still look petite. However it has effected my self-esteem a lot. Anyways thank you for the concern. :)

[malekoniky]

Best way is to find somebody who is worth it and kiss him. Then think about that. How good that was.

You cannot undo that. And if you think about it it has no consequence on your life if you don't let it to have some. If you stop worrying it will fade like it never happened.

[Asker]

I don't want to be rude, but I have tried to stop worrying about it. I know it doesn't effect my life too greatly. Actually it does, I know I'll have to see him again (6 months) and I have the constant worry that my conservative family will find out. Although he means nothing to me, but he has ruined my chancing of watching any romantic movies. Thank you for the advice though, I'll try harder to get over it. :)

[malekoniky]

I guess I was not helpful at all.

What I wanted to say is that you should dream some much great first kiss situation and pretend before yourself that this is what happened. Every time you think about that, dream this dream.

[Asker]

Actually I think that might work. Thanks.

[jacquesvol]

Don't worry about it. It happened and you can't go back in time to undo it. Just live with it and do it again.

If every girl who lets a guy kiss her and go second base is a slut, there are nothing but sluts in the world.

No one asks you to be a saint or even a nun.