Why do girls hate guys that are too available? why is it so attractive when a guy is busy, has things to do?

[Anonymous]

has a life, overall, why do they like, are attracted to guys who are a challenge? are hard to get? people say it is human nature to want what you can't have, that people don't want what is easy to get. Well, a girl can look like Megan Fox or a Hooters girl, and she can be too available, like always answer calls and texts, and it won't be a turn off to most guys, but even if a guy is very hot, handsome, good-looking, looks like Brad Pitt or a GQ Model, but he is too available, he is seen as boring, not exciting, fun enough, as in, they don't want the guy to put aside his own needs just to be with her.

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guys have to have confidence, be comfortable and content, secure with themselves, but girls don't have to, overall, insecurity screws, hurts guys way more than it hurts girls

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

You just are more interesting I suppose.

I like guys who have a good amount of hobbies and stuff, because I like to try new things, and I'd like him to drag me along with him to try them out.

If he's too absorbed with work / hobbies, then that won't be good.

I don't think ti's so much interesting guys are attractive; interesting people are attractive. I usually end up meeting potential guys to date from doing the hobbies I like ( I'm out doorsy so I do rock climbing, hiking, mtn biking, kyacking etc etc )

Not those most mundane girl so I've gotten compliments and male attention for that.

So hmm, I guess it just pays to be a little bit more embracing of the hobbies and things you like to do. Keeps life interesting

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

@update

Omg not you again. Didn't we already have the talk about pointing fingers and life isn't fair?

Oy.

Cry me a river and drown in it.

[Asker]

yeah I don't like it

[Anonymous]

Guys who are too available tend to be clingy and all up in your face all the time. They always want to spend time with you or freak out and get self absorbed if you don't reply to their text with the speed of lightening. They may think you're cheating or that you're mad at them or that they did something wrong. It's just annoying as hell. I'm a girl on the go and clinginess is one of the most annoying things a guy can possibly do to me. It will turn me off A.S.A.P. For me, a clingy guy is like a leech and I just don't want that round me.

[Opinion Owner]

I love it when a guy makes time for me, but not to the point where he answers to my every beck and call, I can expect him to reply to my texts within 5 min (gives off the impression he's got nothing better to do), or if he just smothers me and is all in my face all the time or just coming on too strong too soon.

[Asker]

i see

[Anonymous]

Nah, just a guy who is clingy and needy is unattractive. Being "too available" is a euphamism for has no life of his own and strangles the last dying breath out of anyone he thinks he'd have a chance with. And yes, hot girls get ditched by guys for being needy too. Marilyn Monroe is considered one of the most gorgeous women on Earth, and no man could tolerate her insecurities for long. Making wild generalizations about the opposite gender is a HUGE indicator that you're emotionally insecure and dramatic at this particular moment.

[Asker]

why is it more important for a man to have a life than for a woman?

[Opinion Owner]

It's NOT. You think this because you're in a heightened emotional state right now and not thinking logically. Ever hear of the term "stage five clinger" ... that's usually used to refer to girls. Guys freak when a girl is clingy too -- do you see how much dating advice is about women freaking guys out by overwhelming them by wanting committment too soon. Insecurity is unattractive. A man might f*** an insecure, clingy girl a few times if she's hot enough, but he doesn't want her at all.

[Asker]

see my newest update as well

[Opinion Owner]

You just want validation that poor guys never have a chance and women are evil. You don't want help, you want someone to tell you that everything that goes wrong in life is women's fault. Nobody with that attitude gets far in the dating world. Men or women. But you're only going to believe people who agree with you, so what's the point of even talking to you. I'll tell you what, I'm f***ing insecure (in different ways that you) and it f***s up my dating life too.

[Asker]

my good example is online dating, a woman can have literally nothing written on her profile and she will still get tons of messages as long as she is hot, cute, pretty, but the same does not apply for men

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sure hot guys get attention, but most of them aren't on dating sites. On average, hotter women are more likely than men use dating sites, because more women are looking for something serious -- which is harder than trying to get laid, which happens pretty easily for hot men. Most of us are average, though. Also, men tend to overestimate how desirable they are on a physical basis, so women looking past your belly or flawed features or bald spot is a good thing.

[Asker]

how, why is that a good thing?

[Opinion Owner]

You want women to look at a beer belly or big nose or bald spot and say "Nope, he's not attractive ... next!" Most women take a guy as a whole -- so a sense of humor or compassionate nature or gentleness with children or creative passion or (tons of variations) can balance out a "low score" in another area. Your sense of injustice is flawed and nobody can convince you otherwise. That's part of the reason women find you unattractive, I'm guessing. You feel the world "owes" you something.

[Asker]

it's easier to be visually, physically appealing to someone than it is to be verbally, mentally, socially appealing to someone

[Opinion Owner]

Not really. You're born with physical traits and you can work on your personality. Plus, there are only a few ways someone can be attractive physically, whereas an attractive personality can have a variety of ways to appeal to someone.

[Asker]

well then the girls should get plastic surgery then

[Opinion Owner]

You're being ridiculous.

[marcussg1]

Because women are mostly crazy lol. If yiur too much of anything you dont fit the bill. Guys give more leeway.
This is frustrating for us too. In my odd days of I'm trying to mix it up. I am being adventurous. It doesn't mean I'm clingy. That's over thinking. To many women are always lonely or BORED no plans because they dont mix up their day as much as guys do.

Y'all are hurting yourself a judging guys too soon. Not saying dont trust your instincts, but just as diverse as women are guys are all over the scale too

[Anonymous]

because when it comes to dating and relationships, any woman is capable but only the best men are required, so we have to be one of them

[beastman88]

its all really just your opinion on how relationships work. everybodies different you can't just categorise men and women. everybodies their own person, everybody thinks and works differently from the next person. some women fall in love with jobless bums because they think they can change them. also beauty is really in the eye of the beholder, and opposites do tend to attract. some women aren't attracted to the so called hunk ripped guys. some women prefer chubbier dudes same gos for guys.

[Asker]

i still feel more is expected of men

[Little-Hippie]

Typically speaking, women only date on an incline.

They like to date a guy who is slightly out of their league.

If you have too much time for them, it makes them doubt that you're slightly out of their league.

[Asker]

i see

[Anonymous]

They want the guy they date to have a life, so that they aren't the ones who have to provide entertainment for *both* of them, if they are dating.

So I say this with all the sincerity one would intend, for you to increase your dating prospects...

GET A LIFE!

[carinabina820]

Because no one likes a clinger. When a guy has his own things to do, it means he's not going to be a clinger. Everyone needs to have their own space and their own life before they can even think about making someone else a PART of it.

[carinabina820]

p.s. your update is not true. Girls have to be confident and secure as well. Overall insecurity is a damn good way for a girl to get herself dumped.

[Asker]

yeah but at least she got the boyfriend in the first place, insecurity won't even get the guy into the official relationship status in the first place

[ArrograntWarrior]

It's more like their absence makes them miss them,if he is always available then they assume he is pretty much jobless and desperate

[HateBeingSingleAspie]

i know, girls are mean like that