Why does it turn girls off so much when a guy is desperate, needy, and trying too hard to get a girlfriend?

Seriously, why do girls despise guys who are desperate, needy, and trying or looking too hard to get a girlfriend? It really frustrates me and depresses me, because I am a 21 year old guy, I have been single my entire life, never had a girlfriend. Also I know a guy who is 25 and never had a girlfriend, and a guy who is 36 and always been single, never had a girlfriend, how do you think those guys feel? Seriously, it seems like it's okay for girls to be desperate, be depressed, feel sorry for themselves, but it's not okay for guys. What I mean is that if a girl is depressed about being single, and is desperate for a boyfriend, it will not hurt her as much compared to a guy who is depressed about being single, and desperate to have his first girlfriend. It seems like there is never an excuse for a guy to be depressed and frustrated about being single, to be desperate, no matter what the situation the guy is in. That is one of the unnecessary unfair evil things about life

I don't know if I am extremely desperate or trying too hard, my problem is that I really do want a girlfriend because I've never had one, I do get lonely, and it gets frustrating seeing other couples out there in the world that are younger than me. I think about having and wanting a girlfriend everyday of my life, it depresses and frustrates me so much that I have a hard time getting to sleep at night, that it makes me procrastinate and not do well in school academically. I'm sorry, well it is very hard to have this attitude if you have been single your whole life. C'mon, 21 years old is a bit too old and a bit too late for still being single, most people have their first boyfriend/girlfriend in the teenage years, in high school, like at ages 15 or 16. I don't like being different, I hate being a late bloomer.

It's not that I have not tried taking the initiative into getting a girl to date me or be my girlfriend, I have tried many times, but every girl I end up being interested in and asking out always has a boyfriend already, that is how it is most of the time. The other times girls have rejected me for letting me have their real phone number but they never answered their phone or called me back, never texted me back, so I obviously took the hint that they were not interested in me.

I never try to be like someone else just to get a girl's approval, I am always just being myself, when I get a girls number, I do not call or text her more than once a day, I call her text like once every 3 to 4 days, just to show her I have a life.

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So I don't know if I am still single because I am desperate, trying too hard and looking too hard, or maybe I am not going out enough, because I will admit, I am not an outgoing person, I usually just go to school and come out, no parties, etc.
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Also I am short for a guy, I am 5'6 or 5'7, I weigh 182lbs, I wear Vans shoes, jeans, Volcom, Billabong, Quiksilver T-Shirts. Anyway, if I do sound desperate, how can I stop being desperate for my first girlfriend?
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Does a guy have to love being single, and not want a girlfriend in order for him to get one?
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SOMETIMES I WISH I CAN KICK A WOMAN'S ASS FOR REJECTING ME!, BECAUSE OF THE REASON TEXT151 SAID, OR BEAT UP HER BOYFRIEND OUT OF JEALOUSY, ANGER!
Why does it turn girls off so much when a guy is desperate, needy, and trying too hard to get a girlfriend?
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