When it is only easy for the top 10% of all girls? The ones that are slim , pretty instagram models who get on everywhere they go. Meanwhile the rest of the other women need to go out, work very hard to get a guy?
Because, civilization. When it comes to sex and relationships, there’s an imbalance. If a girl is willing to spread her legs, there’s a line up of guys willing to fill the gap. Not necessarily desirable guys, but… Girls are picky, and often have a misguided sense of expectation when it comes to ‘high value’. We’ve all seen those TickTocks were a group of girls describe their desirable guy and it turns out statistically to not be top 20, but more like 2%. But a tight ass and nice rack aren’t enough to get you girls to 98th percentile…
It is easy for a girl to find sex and since that is what most men desire, they project that desire onto women instead of being more specific.
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Growing up, I noticed that the girls were able to get boyfriends very quickly. They could be single one day, and the next, boom!
Sure, it was usually a very shallow romance, and he was likely just using her for sex, but the worst ones would flaunt him as an excuse to be rude. That rudeness wouldn't even have to involve me showing interest in her. I could be asking if she'd heard about the latest crazy thing to happen in the news, and I'd get shot down with the "I have a boyfriend" line. Made worse when that didn't stop her from randomly hugging other dudes that walked up to her. And getting told to leave when I point out her hypocrisy.
In the past, I'd demand an apology over such horsecrap. Today, I leave immediately before asked, and make a point to avoid her in the future. If I don't ensure consequences for her being a rude and dishonest sack, there won't be any. The simps will see to it that if she skinned a small child right in front of them, she'd still be rewarded rather than punished!
Yet, those types always think I'm gonna be another simp. And when I instead start avoiding her like she's a scourge on humanity, and the shunning process continues months later, they act like I robbed them somehow! Robbed her, by refusing to take further disrespect?
It's nuts. But even the decent gals never showed any trouble snatching up arm candy. And I'm not even talking premium. They so little understood my creative ambitions, they would turn me down for some bearded flake that reeked of weed and could barely form a coherent sentence! Who spoke disgustingly toward her, but at least he wasn't me, so she'd never have to hear a meticulous breakdown of what's right or wrong with some bandwagon she jumped on, all written out on some whiteboard as if fit for a college lecture. Who's got time for that, when you could be busy banging drug addicts and supporting the current thing?
When I did find a gem of a woman, she was either in another country, or was terminally ill. She would be humble, and respectful. I'd return the favor, and try to work something out for as long as this cruel world would allow.
But these girls were battered, broken birds that others had trashed and abused. They were slow to trust, and I couldn't fault them for it. They had met dirtbag men, as I had met dirtbag women. My wounds were mostly emotional, hers physical. But while it lasted, her and I found comfort in each other. The current thing virtue-signaling whores could all go to Hell, as long as I had one girl who wasn't that way.
Two of three are dead now. I long to visit their graves some day, and pay respects.
It's way more about personality with women the ones that will put their partner first will find someone and the others won't. You still need to be able to set boundaries and know your own needs and communicate them. But it's about the attitude you go into a relationship with. Also don't overvalue yourself based on attention from a guy who will never commit to you that's also something many women do. A woman's looks will increase the options she has to chose from but it will not help her in having a long term partner. That's all down to self awareness, willingness to work on yourself and how much you're willing to do to have that relationship not just expect it to happen.
Everybody needs to work to have a relationship. But this idea that women have it easier comes from the fact that when you're growing up it's harder for guys to even start out dating and gain some experience and understand what they still need to learn and things they're doing wrong because they're not even getting a chance. They know they're supposed to be dating but don't know how ( there are exceptions but the majority will struggle in high school and a good number in college as well)
It's only in your 30s when you have a life and you've figured a lot of things out where things begin to shift in men's favor but when you're 16 that feels like you're entire life that you're just struggling and struggling to get anywhere.
So most of the people who say this are young guys who are overwhelmed by life and the expectations that are coming at them.
I don't think its easy for a woman to find a real relationship, but I also don't think its easy for men either. I do however think its very easy for a girl to get laid and use sex as a weapon to try to get a guy hooked into being in a relationship with her.
Here are the facts
Men date down.
Women date up.
A woman typically want a man who earns enough to take care of her and her prospective children with a little bit of age on him compared to her. So he is well established. "I don't want no bum" doesn't come from nowhere.
A man typically wants a youthful, and pretty woman. He doesn't care about your job or what you make. You could be a mcdonalds crew member for all he cares and you don't have to be a supermodel, just pretty enough for him.
Richer wealthy men, the top percent, are notorious for using these facts to their advantage to get as much sex as they want. They have life experience, one woman isn't super special to them and they know women sometimes try to use sex as a weapon to draw them in.
Did you know that 50% of men aged 18-25 are virgins? I don't have a source, I saw it in a youtube video of someone commentating on an article that stated it. Its also true that you are going to be hard pressed to find any girl that is still a virgin.
I believe, and this is just me. If every single woman from the time they had interest in boys absolutely refused to have sex until marriage this would stop it dead in its tracks and we would all be able to be in lasting relationships more often.
I’ll be blunt. I think some girls and women especially on GAG are fixated for example on a guys height. And to any female GAG user reading this who is HEIGHT means everything, are these females really going to mope and be that stubborn over a few inches if a guy is 5’8 and not 6ft. Imagine if women couldn’t get breast implants, imagine if women couldn’t wear high heels, imagine if women couldn’t put on makeup, she would look less pretty then. I never wanted it to get to this by insulting women this way but after reading bitchy comments from girls for years on GAG. I’m tired of the constant male hating, degrading a man’s value and equating everything to height. We live in a world today where women don’t care about marriage or kids soo ladies if you don’t want kids and don’t have a nurturing side to you where you can protect your kids which even female animals can do, why be fixated on 6ft+ men to protect you? We’re facing world war 3 and another Great Depression we may very well have to fend for ourselves. So yea, right now it’s easy for women and girls to get guys with dating apps like tinder, to social media, even in person. At this point I just want to go to heaven and be with God because I don’t like people in this world and I think majority of people in this world are hateful, racist, stubborn, shallow, disloyal people.
As a woman, I don’t think it’s hard for women to get a guy. However I didn’t know how hard it is for men. Sometimes I wished that I could actually think like an actual man.
The law of attraction suggests that the energy and mindset you emit will attract similar energies or people into your life. When you work on yourself, cultivating certain character traits or qualities, you naturally tend to draw individuals who share those traits or resonate with the energy you project. It's often about alignment between your inner state and the external connections you make.
If you put the work into yourself, you won’t even have to work that hard attracting partners, but a lot of us tend to be people pleasers, trying to impress others and forget oneself. (I am not referring to impressing someone you’re courting, that’s part of the work) Work on yourself, impress yourself first. 😂😂 and that doesn’t actually mean being self-centered either.
It’s definitely much easier for a woman to find her equal than vice versa. Plenty of 7 guys would happily date another 7. But lots of 7 girls hope to “date up” to 8s and 9s.
I am not just talking about looks but when you factor in intelligence, status and wealth women more often then not want to date up. Hypergamy is a real thing.
That’s why it’s tougher for men because we are not special just for existing. It’s much harder for us to date our true equivalent. We usually get shit tested if the girl believes the guy is on par with her.
There are a small percentage of women who get intimated by their equivalents and want full control and power over the lower level guy. They want little/no risk of him cheating. That’s not that common though.
Keep in mind that women often don't devote all their time -- or affection -- to one specific guy at any given time. As an ex girlfriend of mine once said, 'You can never get everything you need from one guy, so you have two or three guys, and each of them fills a different need. I'll have one guy that just fucks me, and that's it. Then I'll have a guy who I use to pay my bills and pay for me and my fuck buddy to go out on the weekends, and stuff. Usually, that guy only gets to lick me and hang out with me'
Because it is. There's a reason why there's cases of females who transition to males that suicide soon after because of the treatment (as a man) that they get. It's a whole lot different. Girls just have to post some pictures with some good angles and watch their inboxes flood. Then they have their pick of the crop. Whereas men have to send many messages to different girls and get ignored most of the time. Men do NOT have their inboxes flooded and usually have maybe a few girls at most that are interested in conversing. Girls will always have more attention than men and will always have the power in dating.
Finally the truth is coming out about thr ither 90% of women who were never blessed with good genes in looks and having a natural slim body, thick hair.. etc..
****Also, women don't get a "PASS" if we are not super skinny or beautiful. Doesn't matter if your funny, rich a good women a man literally will reject and pass you by for the naturally beautiful and slim one.
Guys fall in love with looks. Period. I am beautiful and am slightly chubby but I certainly am passed up. If I just lost 15-20 lbs I could open a wider net of men.
Because a lot of gals are successful at dating by doing nothing at all.
Because a literal table will get matches on Tinder if you make its gender female.
Because a guy can be a tall, handsome, well endowed championship level athlete and still undesirable to women.
Because there is way more single men than single women available.
It's easy to find a guy who wants to have sex with you. It doesn't matter what you think you look like, there will always be some dude who wants to fuck you.
It might not be easy to get a guy worth being in a relationship with, but it's definitely easier for women than it is for men. Most guys don't have very high standards. Considering most women are attractive by default (some more than others, but most girls are still nice to look at) all you really have to do is take basic care of yourself and not have an awful personality (be agreeable/cooperative) Men don't care about what you drive (many dont even care If you don't drive) where you work, how much you make, etc...
That's not true, girls have it way too easy to have sex or short relationships, which may not be true for the long term. A friend of mine, an average-looking girl who doesn't even wear makeup fucked 16 guys over three months after a breakup just by downloading Tinder. Some of the guys were old, very very rich, or known professional sportspersons. They provided her great lifestyle. During university, the ugliest girl in our class had relationships with two different guys, guys way above her looks. If you look for actual stats even in conservative countries women nowadays have more body count than men. That top 10% rule actually applies to men.
The guys say the girls have it easy, but they mean easy to get sex. The girls think they mean get a relationship.
The girls say the guys have it easy, but they mean easy to approach/pursue a woman. They guys think they mean every aspect of dating is easy for men.
We are talking past each other
Guys think just because if we spread our legs we could get any guy we wanted without realizing that sure men will will fuck any girl but not be willing to date her.. So it is just as hard to find a guy who actually likes you as it is for a guy to find a girl to respond to them.
I really don't know what you mean by "work hard". When I want a girlfriend here is what I do:
- Read books on human psychology
- Watch videos on how to talk to women
- Go to the gym regulary to stay in shape
- Dress well and take care of my clothes so I can look good
- Speak multiple languages and partake in many hobbies
- Save up money to pay for dates, neglect myself so I can pay for others
- Approach a woman and risk humiliation, shame, and rejection
- Prepare all the conversation, the entire date, all the jokes
- Take her on the date, lead all the conversation, pay for the meal and entertainment
If you think spending 1 hour in make up per day is hard work, then I have news for you...
It is.
It is a fact.
Not, a relationship. Not necessarily finding the ideal man you WANT but any average girl could have sex any day she chooses to put herself out and offer sex to men.
Any average woman has lots of guys contacting her and trying to get with her.
They may not be the man she wants but she doesn't have to be alone if she doesn't want to be.
There has been quite a bit on hypergamy in answers. Now I hope it isn't controversial that men genuinely like 20's something female bodies.
Now a ~20's woman potentially has a wining lottery ticket. Her body, her beauty, her personality might be exactly what a high value man wants. Why wouldn't she wait to see if her lottery ticket is a winner.
Cinderella has been an iconic tale for a long time for a reason people.
i just know every time i go on a date with someone, they are just getting over the last thing and shopping around before they decide. but i realize it’sa generalization to say it’s easy for all women
Because guys prioritize sex. Women can acquire sex easily. Since most men want to avoid the obligations of a relationship ship to get sex they think women have it easy since they pretty much only need to be available and willing to get man on top of her. Men wish that merely being willing was enough for a woman to get under him.
Only easy for 10% of girls?
But 100% of F don't even have to make the first move, or be worried about having enough wealth, because let's be honest, no woman finds attractive a guy who is poor and don't have any relevant status, other than a woman who's in the same situation.
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