Anyway some time ago I meat this really nice girl that I really started to like and we really hit it off and everything was going great but then in one moment it all went south for no parent reason. She just said she wasn't interested and there was never any interest on her part anyway. Witch I didn't buy for a second because I had a feeling that she got cold feet and backed off.
Anyway I can't say I wasn't hurt but I didn't show it and acted all normal toward her but for some reason she kept ignoring me one day but a little less the next. So a few days ago we sort meat each other by accident and talked and even laughed a little. I even thought she looked like she missed my company a little.
The next day she was a little more but still at least not ignoring me and speaking to me a little.
But yesterday I get an I'm from her asking me 3 times if I was there and then finally she just wrote me that she couldn't see me for a while because it doesn't feel right or something along these lines. The thing is we hang out in the same crowd but I can't excuse from where we hang because my work is related.
Well here's what I don't get. She told me she wasn't interested and that here was nothing there and that she wasn't going to bother herself with me. Now if that all is really true then why all the wired mood swings and the blowing off stuff. Since I wasn't angry at her and I didn't act in any rude way toward her.
I mean if she really didn't care about the whole situation why is she writing me crazy texts that she doesn't want to see me when I've been keeping my distance.
I really, really like this girl but she's strange and I don't understand her.
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you may have been moving too quickly. if she's a quality girl, and there seems to be a hint of rush-rush lets gdtf now, she may like you; but feel a relationship would not be a good choice. I have really, really liked certain guys but they were moving fast, or they seemed to be trying to present themselves in a way that I didn't think was authentic. In her mind, its better to just disengage. It might seem like mixed signals, because the girl really does like you and doesn't really have an ax to grind. Sho she seems favorable to you--which she is. She just doesn't know your intentions fully, doesn't trust you, or feels the relationship will be bad for her. So she shuts it down. It makes sense when you think of all of the guys out there who are just looking for fwb, dtf girls, nsa, hit-it-n-quit-it, etc. She may have learned something about you that while you may think is innocent, totally shut the door for her. Women won't tell you, this sort of thing; they just disappear or change behavior and men think they go hot and cold. I've really liked a guy and during a convo w/him he mentioned something that he didn't think twice about, but for me, I was ready to head for the exits. I'd say let her be.
I admit now that I look back at it I might have been moving a little too fast for her but in my defense I really had to kick myself in the butt to move slow and I really was moving slow with her. I guess just not slow enough. And I don't know she might have learned something about me or something I said but her change always happened the next day not when she was with me. And I really like her I haven't meat someone like this in years and I tried explaining this to her but it didn't help.
exactly. some women, like me will hear the news and think, "Oh my god I've gotta get out of here." but remain calm, serene, friendly and even fun "at that moment." But when you see them again, they are totally on another level. Generally, I'm thinking, "Wow, dude, guess I'll just scratch you off the list." But I'm not "mad" at the guy, and I am having a good time. I just make a mental note and pass on any future encounters.
Ok. So this would translate into losing trust in the guy you were interested in and him becoming a write off right? Let's say it's something along these lines. Is there any possibility of salvaging the situation in your case? And if there is what would be the best way for me to win back her trust?
it depends on the girl, and what it was that she learned or thought she saw that turned her. a girl like that doesn't want to hurt your feelings. so she won't tell you what it is--also, she probably doesn't want you to try to win her back bcs she likely feels the issue cannot be fixed with actions. I think you should move on.
I was afraid of that and it was what I was thinking. But I can't seem to figure out what it might be.
I don't know but I can't just move on. I really like her and I've got a gut feeling that I shouldn't move on just yet. Thing is I don't exactly know why and what flipped her. I don't think it was anything I did but still. It's bugging me.