I don't know where you girls got this crazy idea, that if you dump a guy, treat him like sh*t, nag all the time, and turn in an emotional mess of a human being, sobbing and bawling and screaming and whimpering... that the guy you just dumped is going to fight for you.
Are you high? Or just naturally deluded?
Look at the words you use. You fight. You beg. You plead. You cry. You were sobbing, exhausted, hopeless and shattered.
Does that sound like someone a guy would fight for? Seriously?
SERIOUSLY?!?
You broke up with him. Okay? Get that into your head. YOU broke up with HIM.
That is not a sign to a guy that you're worth fighting for. You're not worth pursuing. He moves his entire life to be with you, you turn in to a horrible blubbering nag monster, and then YOU break up with HIM.
Right now, he's thinking what a huge mistake he's made, how the hell did it all go wrong, and how can fix the mess he's made of his life.
None of which, by the way, involves you. Or fighting for you. You are the source of his problems. He's not gonna fight for that. Especially when YOU broke up with HIM.
From what I can see, you thought moving in together was some romantic fairy tale disney thing. You had no idea that when a couple moves in together, it changes the relationship. You were not prepared for this. You had your own fairy tale notion of what it would be like, and when it wasn't like that, you put the ENTIRE blame for that on him.
Because he didn't fulfill your silly girlish notions of what moving in together would be like, YOU broke up with HIM.
I hope he gets the hell away from you, and has better luck in the future.
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Maybe he doesn't know how to express himself or even show how to love. It seems like you guys moved to fast without fully getting to know each other. If he was from a different country then it would be hard for you to get to know him in person. Now you see his true colors and it seems like he was putting on an act. I don't think he will fight for you. Maybe he just doesn't know how. He seems to be inexperience with girls and how to express himself or what to say. That is the reason why he wrote the note to you because he is holding pride. But you are right he should be trying to comfort you more. His actions seem very weird for a guy. Not all guys are fighters.
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Your holding on to something that just is not there, move on, or your heart will always hurt, this guy is giving nothing of what you need and everyone needs to survive a relationship, and that's love and compassion, so cut your losses, you have talent, they won't go un-noticed, but this guy wouldn't see talent from you if it bit his eye out, so leave and get someone worthy, because this guy surely don't desrve your emotions, because he don't care enough to give an emotion about you, so leave,x
Breaking up with a guy doesn't tell him "Come be close to me." It says "get away away from me". Kind of annoying that's not obvious.
Anyway, he probably got in over his head and can't handle the life changes he made to be with you. That's a lot of change. In the end, you can't rely on other people for happiness. I know that's no consolation right now. You can either talk to him honestly and clearly or move on.
Trusting people leads to disappointment.Sorry but you have a lot of growing up to do. Life is not about fairy tails and hugs. Move on and next time don't expect so much.
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