How can I accept that no one will love me at my lowest?

[Lynnalove]

so I lost weight i was overweight my whole life and now im skinny , but now there's this guy I met he's nice and everything but one day i thought that he wouldn't even be with me if I were overweight , now I know that it's not everybody's type , but it's hard to accept that no one would love u at your lowest point in your life (like being broke or overweight or ugly) and that u wouldn't be worthy of being loved , my boyfriend wouldn't have loved me if I was overweight , so if I became overweight again i guess he would leave me? I don't know , but how can accept this?

[devilish-cutie]

people can love you but they might not want to have sex with you as your body may be repulsive, so a guy lookig for a mate would be attracted to fit girl as she would provide him with pleasant sex, so that is more lust than love. Its more about physical sexual desire that noone can control. That doesn't mean you are unlovable tho, just at that state you will less likely attract a man that is sexually not into that. We can all lack certain things, eg. if someone was mean/rude person and than changed ofc noone would want to deal with someone like that. That doesn't mean that person is unlovable but it means that at that state that person was not desirable partner with major flaw. Probably even you dont love ysf like that. We all have our preferences, im sure there are things you wouldn't accept about the guy even if he was sweetest ever so point is human level of desirability is very clear and ofc result will be that way... I hope it helped in any way

[Lynnalove]

THANK U SO MUCH THIS WAS SO HELPFUL!

[devilish-cutie]

Glad I helped :)

[Lauliss]

Love yourself and then you won't need other's love.

[boggboss]

Nope someone not getting with u when u are overweight don't mean they would leave if u became overweight they are two completely different situations plus I feel the nonsense of people want love me at my lowest so they don't deserve my best is a excuse for essently poor lazy or shitty behaviour when I was a teen at my lowest points I had anger issues I wasn't violent but I was a hot head should someone have to put up or accept that behaviour because thats my lowest not at all

[DextroShade]

Men are visual, and a woman has to pass the "bones test" (be attractive enough to be desirable for sex) for a man to want to be with her. You wouldn't be with a guy who had no money, no ambition, lived in his parent's basement and got high and played video games all day, so just accept that men and women value different things.

[Anonymous]

Because that's most people. Life begins when you realize you'll probably always be alone, even when you're in a relationship. Because most people (men and women) are only woth you for what you'll provide them with. Or a perceived value you bring to thier life, not actually you.

[Alex8736]

focus on yourself and only yourself and what makes you happy