I ran into my ex-gf two days ago after not seeing or being in contact with her for the past 5 months. It was extremely awkward... seeing how she was at the top of my street. We went for a walk to catch up and I found out she saw my parents in the same spot the week before. She said she was walking from her cousins house which is a few blocks out of the way of my house to get home. There are a lot of different routes she could take but chose this one? 20 mins after I walked her to her house and said our goodbyes (brought back memories) and she said we should meet for a coffee or something, I recived a Facebook friend request. Now I'm stuck in a hole thinking about what to do.
A while back I sent her a message saying that I can't be friends right now and that I'm too emotionally unstable. Then I cut contact for a while. We then met up a few months later, and hit it off for a while saying how sorry she was for breaking up with me and that she still loves me. A few weeks later after non-stop parties and catering to her, I asked her if she even wanted to do this. And after many crying talks she said no. So there's a back ground...
Almost all of my friends and family say to ignore the request. They say its not good to be friends and the fact that I will be able to look at her profile. Meanwhile one of my friends say that I can do it because its been a long enough time and that she wants to see what I'm up to. Or he says dont accept it, but send her a message saying that it hasn't been long enough and that I still have feelings that I'm trying to move past. But at the same time I dont want to break the ice mesaging her first allowing her to feel like she is able to talk to me. I'm really confused with what to do. I dont want to be an asswhole but still do have feelings for her that I dont want to be brought back. I still love and care for her in a sence, but I dont know if I could be anything but in a relatioship with her. And I dont know about going down that path again!
A while back I sent her a message saying that I can't be friends right now and that I'm too emotionally unstable. Then I cut contact for a while. We then met up a few months later, and hit it off for a while saying how sorry she was for breaking up with me and that she still loves me. A few weeks later after non-stop parties and catering to her, I asked her if she even wanted to do this. And after many crying talks she said no. So there's a back ground...
Almost all of my friends and family say to ignore the request. They say its not good to be friends and the fact that I will be able to look at her profile. Meanwhile one of my friends say that I can do it because its been a long enough time and that she wants to see what I'm up to. Or he says dont accept it, but send her a message saying that it hasn't been long enough and that I still have feelings that I'm trying to move past. But at the same time I dont want to break the ice mesaging her first allowing her to feel like she is able to talk to me. I'm really confused with what to do. I dont want to be an asswhole but still do have feelings for her that I dont want to be brought back. I still love and care for her in a sence, but I dont know if I could be anything but in a relatioship with her. And I dont know about going down that path again!
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