A while back I sent her a message saying that I can't be friends right now and that I'm too emotionally unstable. Then I cut contact for a while. We then met up a few months later, and hit it off for a while saying how sorry she was for breaking up with me and that she still loves me. A few weeks later after non-stop parties and catering to her, I asked her if she even wanted to do this. And after many crying talks she said no. So there's a back ground...
Almost all of my friends and family say to ignore the request. They say its not good to be friends and the fact that I will be able to look at her profile. Meanwhile one of my friends say that I can do it because its been a long enough time and that she wants to see what I'm up to. Or he says dont accept it, but send her a message saying that it hasn't been long enough and that I still have feelings that I'm trying to move past. But at the same time I dont want to break the ice mesaging her first allowing her to feel like she is able to talk to me. I'm really confused with what to do. I dont want to be an asswhole but still do have feelings for her that I dont want to be brought back. I still love and care for her in a sence, but I dont know if I could be anything but in a relatioship with her. And I dont know about going down that path again!
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Having an ex on social media would be toxic until you really were over her. You need time to heal if you ever want to actually be friends with her but if you're still hurt don't accept the friend request. A broken heart needs time to heal.